Should we wait to have sex? Should we rush into it or wait until we are married?
What do you see as the advantages to having premarital sex? The disadvantages? Do you think more marriages would last longer if couples showed their faithfulness to one another by abstaining from sex until after marriage? Would it make the relationship stronger if you wait?
19 comments:
This answer varies so widely based on each person. There is no right or wrong. My personal belief is that sex brings people closer together, and I don't think marriage is necessary for that. I do think that for me sex is personal and not to be given to any one around, otherwise that intimacy that sex brings would become meaningless.
Renee Hart
Personally, I believe that all sexual activity should wait until after you're married. I'm sure you've heard this before, but "guys give love to get sex and girls give sex to get love." If you're in a relationship with a guy who says he really loves you and wants to have sex with you, he can't love you that much otherwise he'd respect your wishes to wait. Sexual activity (from a girl's point of view) brings you closer, emotionally, to the guy. Meaning: if you've had sex with five different people before you got married, your married life isn't going to go so well. You've lost that closeness with your partner, because you wanted to have it early with the "love of your life" when you were 16 and 17 and 18, etc. You should wait for marriage so that you can have that closeness with your spouse.
Megan Mercier (9:00)
I think that it probably is best to wait. Although I may be a hypocrite about this topic, I do believe that if tow people wait and hold out for one another, it makes the marriage more special. It makes the relationship stronger, and who knows, it may even make the marriage last longer. Then again, if two virgins got married, they may always wonder what else is out there, and it may not last at all. I really don't think that I can say for sure about this question. I think each person is entitled to make his or her own choice. Most f which are probably influenced by family values and morals. Hope this helped in some way.
Dustin Piercy (9:00).
For me personally, I think sex should wait until marriage. It is so much more special giving your love that way to the one person you are going to spend the rest of your life with. What some people could see as a disadvantage is they are afraid they might not do "it right" when they get married, resulting in them wanting "practice". Although,I definitely think more marriages would last and make the relationship stronger if they abstained from sex until marriage. Then again, after a while they might wonder what else is out there. It is all a personal matter for that person. But as a whole I think relationships and marriages would last and be cherished, the way they were intended.
Elizabeth Kerns
SEX! SEX! SEX! I do not agree with waiting until marriage to have sex with someone. Some people may be so attracted to their partner that they may rush into a marriage to get what they desire, and that is definitely not the makings of a healthy relationship. I think that rushing into sex, as in the first night would be a bad idea as well. Sex should be had between to people that love each other, sex should be had as a part of a relationship. Having sex is not a bad thing in the slightest way, being physical with the one you love is part of being with the one you love. You must equally balance it (maybe focus quite a bit more on emotional) between being physical and emotionally caring to the one you love. To be ready to marry someone you must be happy with them in a physical and emotional sense. Sex before marriage is okay just wait until you are in love to make it something special because it is such a beautiful thing
Christopher Cole
I pretty much agree with what everyone has been saying so far. People are going to do whatever they want. It's like underage drinking and using drugs, it seems to be done more because it's illegal. In my high school it seemed like everyone was doing something with their boyfriend or girlfriend except me. I knew I wasn't mature enough to have sex. Everyone used to give me a hard time for it too; sometimes it really got to me. They would make me feel really bad for not being ready to have sex and say that my boyfriend would leave me for someone else if I didn't change my mind. My boyfriend loves me and i know that my he accepts my choice the way it is. I knew they were just messing around but peer pressure is really awful sometimes. But I stuck to my personal values and I think that it has helped me mature more in that time. So it's up to each person and what they stand for.
Abby Dillingham (9:00)
I think that waiting to have sex is the best decision a peron can make in their life. I think that if a person chooses to have sex before marriage then it should be with someone you love and loves you back. I think that it is not something that you just do on the spur of a moment. I really think that their are no real advantages to have premartial sex. The disadavantages, for me greatly outweigh the advantages. You could really dissconnect yourself from the person you thought you loved/liked by rushing into sex. I think that it just makes the relationship stronger if you wait because you know that you are the only person who has been or will be with that person. It is a very special thing in which, I think is only meant for that one special person.
Frankie Gaskill (9:00)
People will have sex no matter what other people say. You could tell people that their arm will fall off if they have sex and they will still do it. There is so much sex around everywhere now a days that you can't go anywhere without seeing it. Sex is on billboards, TV, clothes, radio, and stores. Sex is everywhere you look. This day and age it seems like if you don't have sex then you are an outcast. I don't view if that way though. I believe you should only have sex with someone if you love them. As gay as it sounds, sex should be a time that you get to express your love for someone else. I definitly think that the morals of the past have been discarded. In the past the women would wait until marriage to have sex, which would usually be in their 20's, but today some girls are losing their virginity at 14 and 15 years old. I think that people are having sex too early with the wrong people. If you do have sex before marriage it should be with someone you have strong feelings for. In that case, I believe that the good does outweigh that bad. Personally, I don't find anything wrong with sex before marriage unless you just have people going out and having sex with random people they will never meet again. Thats how diseases are spread. Should we wait to have sex before marriage? It depends on your views and beliefs. If two people are willing and both have feelings for each other, I say go for it.
Kirby Reifsteck (9:00)
Everyone individual is different when it comes to their feelings about sex. I personally don't think there is anything wrong with having sex before marriage. If you share a special relationship with someone who you can trust I don't see a problem. However, I don't think people should rush into having sex. I think it should be something special that is shared between two people who are in love. Rushing into sex can definitely tear relationships apart. Instead of focusing on a strong, healthy relationship all the focus is drawn to sex. That's why more people should wait until they really get to know the other person before they have sex. But, everyone has their own views, and they're going to do what they want to.
Chelse Lindenbaum (9:00)
I think people are going to do what they want, and so just let them. I really do wish people woudl wait, because it seems like it would make marriage seem like a much bigger deal, but it's not going to happen. If two people are in love, but they end up not getting married in the end, i dont think its bad if they had sex. I really dont think marriages would last longer if both of them waited until they were married to have sex. I dont think it makes relationships stronger or weaker by any means. It depends on the person and what they believe. You cant really tell people, wait or go do it, its what they want and how they feel.
Morgan MacFarlane (9:00)
I feel that sex is something to be shared between two people who are in love. I dont think that two people should wait until marriage. I dont think you need a piece of paper to show your love for a person you do it through you actions.
Kristin Knowles
Umm I really don't know if a couple waited until marriage to have sex, that their relationship would be much better off. Not every relationship is the same. Honestly, it just depends on the individuals. I think it's cool if people wait, and I think it's cool if people don't wait. If they do wait--all for them. One advantage of waiting, obviously is that they wouldn't get pregnant. I think people are better off with waiting, but that's not going to happen with everyone.
Alyssa Surber (9:00)
Yes we should wait to have sex. If people wait instead of sleeping around with people before they get married, they will be more committed and have a better chance of being completely loyal to their spouse throughout their marriage. I don't think that there are disadvantages of not waiting...waiting for the one person you are supposed to share your body with. Since the divorce rate is now over 50%, I do think that waiting until marriage would decrease this. So many people think it is okay to have sex with whoever they are dating, but then they end up sleeping with numerous people by the time they actually find the one. They might end up comparing sex with their other partners, when they shouldn't have had other experiences to compare because it should be between two people only. I truly believe that the increase of "okayness" of having sex before marriage has affected the divorce rate. People just aren't satisfied with each other and are used to "change". It would make the relationship stronger because there is something very special that you only share with one other person. If you have waited throughout your life for that person, it makes sex so much more special..and that is what God created it for-marriage. He didn't make it for pleasure during college, or just a feel good thing to do. It's for a husband and wife.
Hannah Dodd (9:00)
This is a hard subject to decide upon. I did not wait, and I have enjoyed my marriage for four years now. The adv. of premarital sex is that sex is a big part of a relationship, and has been a big part of divorce. Wouldn't it be nice to know your partner is horrible in bed before you are committed for life. I'm not saying you shouldn't work on this area with your partner, but some people are just not going to ever get it right. A dis. is that you lose that big excitement on your wedding night.
Bobbi (9:00)
Pre-martial while a good idea as far as relationships are concerned, dont help the overall problem. Those who have sex dont mostly do it for relationships they do it for the pleasure,in a since its like a small addiction. It also doesnt help that sex sells like an addiction as well. As to if its important, it is, HIV, AIDS, Babys, etc, and not to mention it is a very personal and it current times social thing. So it should be stressed of safe sex, because as long as their is a Y chromozone and they dont perform operations on their girls like they do in Africa, sex will always be popular.
Randy I.
Yes i think that we should wait to have sex.I think people should wait to have sex until they are married because i was always tought that sex is a sacred act between husband and wife and that if you have sex befor married it is the same as comiting adultry. the advantages of waiting are the exsperionce will be so much more intence because you will have no gilt and you will know that you are exsperioncing this act with someone who has admited to the whole world that they want to spend the rest of there life with you and only you. The disadvantages of waiting is that it's hard to wait because you will canstantly reminded of sex by the others around you and even on television it constantly advertised.I do think that more marriages would last if couples showed their faitfulness by waiting because that person has already showed that they new that they would meet some one important enough for them to wait for and they show there appreciation by waiting.
Erica j. Smith
The ideal decision would be to wait until marriage to have sex. The potential consequences far outweigh the benefits of premarital sex. Nowadays, you're basically risking you're life if you choose to have sex. Is a moment of pleasure really worth that risk? Far too many STD's exist today, and too many people have sex without knowing their partner well enough to know if they are infected. Many people have random, meaningless sex without even considering that something bad could happen. They assume their invincible to STD's. I do believe that more marriages would survive, if people saved themselves for their spouse. What a special bond it would create, knowing you're spouse waited just for you.
Jennifer Wilson
While I think that it is a noble idea that some people wait until their wedding night, this concept is not realistic. Pre-marital sex is nothing new. Nowadays it is much more out in the open; but premarital sex has always taken place. There are no real advantages to pre-marital sex. It is just unreasonable to think that people wait that long. Besides, I believe that people need to discover and be comfortable with their own sexuality before commiting themselves to someone for eternity.
Somthing tells me that people who wait until marraige tend to get married much quicker. Considering the divorce rate in this country this is probably not a good thing. I think that people should take a much longer time with courtship than many of these people take. If you stay engaged with someone for a few years, you end up with a pretty good picture of what marraige with that person would be like. If this concept is all about strenghthening marraiges, then we should make sure that marraige is based on strong relationships, not abstaining from sex. Hey this reminds me of an analogy: Getting married for sex is like buying a plane ticket for the free peanuts.
Scott Kimball (9:00)
I think that it’s someone’s decision whether or not they want to have premarital sex. I don’t disagree with it if people are safe about it. It’s also better if it’s with someone you care about. I think that it might make a person’s relationship stronger if they waited to have sex because that way they know that they are not together simply for the physical aspect of the relationship. I don’t think that abstaining from sex until after a couple is married would help faithfulness in the relationship at all. If anything I think that it might encourage the couple to cheat on each other if they happen to have no chemistry sexually.
Jimmy Gourdier (12:00 class)
Post a Comment