When a woman or a teenager gets pregnant, why would the father of the child walk away?
Becoming a parent is one of the most exciting times in an adult's life and you would think that the father of the child would want to be a part of that. I do not see how fathers can just walk away and not have any thought about it when that baby is a part of them too. But it seems to happen all the time. Why? Obviously, it takes two people to make a baby, and the woman can't walk away--what does it say about a man when he does?
Jennifer Woodward (12:00)
18 comments:
If a man choses to walk away from a relationship after he gets his partner pregnant I think it shows a lot of immaturity on his part and shows that he is not ready for the level of commitment that he is being forced to be ready for. He did his part in the pregnancy and if he wasn't ready to face the fact of having a child, then he shouldn't have been having sex with her. A man might also choose to walk away due to the influence of others, such as family, friends, co-workers, sometimes when something happens that isn't expected people react in brash ways. It is totally unfair and immature for the man to walk away, he is not only hurting the woman but the child as well.
Abby Pennington (12:00)
There are many reasons the father might walk away, he might already be married or have other problems in which he can't stay with her. NONE of these reasons are a good option. He shouldn't have had sex in the first place if he wasn't going to stand by her. This is one of the many problems with so many people having sex so easily after partying, sometimes they can't remember who they were with in the first place. Unfortunately the woman can't just walk away like some men can, but I believe they are both guility. This is where some women have the baby, then give it up for adoption. Ultimately it takes a man with no brains to get in this situation in the first place.
If a woman or teenager gets pregnant the father may walk away because he may not feel he is ready to be just that, a father. And maybe because he's scared. Those are the only two main reasons that I could think of. To me, if a man walks away from his child and responsibilities then he's not a man. I think that when situations like that occur it has to be hard on the woman even more because then she deals with the fact that she is now a single parent, she has to support her child somehow, and always wondering in the back of her mind "why didn't he stay with the baby and me"?
Many fathers would walk away because they arent ready to become a man. They are still wanting to be free and not be tied down to one woman and their child. Men are usually the ones trying to get the girl to have an abortion or get rid of the baby. When most women are scared to have the baby they do so anyways. If a man abandons his woman and baby its show that he is irresponsible. He cant handle the pressure of having a life to support. Most people are rich anyway and have a hard time surviving on their own, and when they know that all the money they make will not be spent on them it scares them awaty; life is not supposed to be that is what the man thinks.
I believe that many men walk away once they find out their partner is pregnant, because they are not ready to be a man, and be responsible for something that huge! I also don't believe that some guys are ready to give up there "player/freedom" days and become a father. Men seem to find any reason these days to deny a child and walk out of their life. I believe that men who do this are very immature and is a poor excuse for a man.
-Emily Stege
I think that if the father of the child walks away then ur shows that he is not ready to take responsibility for his actions. He is basically saying that he did what he thought he had to do and now the rest is up to the mother. By walking away he is showing that he is less of a man than he thinks. If he cant handle the resposibility for helping take care of the baby then he should not of had sex.
Rachel Rudder
I personally think dead beat dads is a huge problem in America today. Sometimes fathers were left themselves and don't know what to do. Others are immature and do not want to take responsibility, as well as father who just does not care and does not want kids or care about the mother. There are many excuses on why a father would walk away from his child. I think that a man who thinks he has the right to call himself a man will take responsibility for his child no matter what. Some are just to scarred and let their fear get the best of them, others arnt ready to give up their lives or ready to step up to the plate. I think all of the following are excuses. Men obviously can make children, they need to take care of them. Stats show that father less children have greater odds of becoming father less to their own children. All and all its a cop out plain and simple its not that hard to make a kid and it is not that hard to raise one. Be there for your child and love them and support them as much as you can.
Michelle Carr (12:00)
I think the man is just too cowardly to take on the important role of being a father. That or he just simply does not want to devote his "precious" time and effort into the child.
I just think its one of the worst things a father could do. That baby needs all the help it can get and one of its creators just walks away. Coward.
The father of a child who walks away is an irresponsible coward who lacked self-control and intelligence in not using protection when he knew he didn't want to have a child. Even though having a child is a beautiful and amazing event, I think that a father who did not plan on having one, did not love his partner, was not committed to her, did not have the financial resources to support one, or did not want to settle down is more scared by the event than happy about having a child. They realize that their lives as they knew it are going to significantly change and that a lot of freedom will be gone, so they choose to walk away. It is horrible because it is so important for a baby to have a father figure and to be raised in a healthy environment, but some guys are immature and choose to ignore their responsibilities than to fulfill them as any decent human being would.
i really don't think their is a good excuse for a father to walk away from his child. I could understand why a teenage boy would be terrified about being a father at an early age. i do agree that having a baby is exciting at the right time, but i don't believe teenagers should be having babies. it takes two fully mature and responsible adults to be able to raise a child. A father that walks away from his child is not a man, because a man would be able to step up to his responsibilities. When a couple decides to have sex, they know that they are taking a chance of having a baby, even if they use protection, and if that decide to take that chance they should take responsibility of their actions. I am not saying it is bad to have sex when your not ready to have a baby, but i am saying that if you do and something happens it is both the man and the woman's fault and they both should take equal responsibility.
Omar Al-Chaar (12:00)
I really don't know why a man would walk away. I think that having a kid, and just being apart of it's life is wonderful. Maybe men just have their own corky way of thinking about things. They might think that they can't handle it, they could be immature, be too young (which is a poor excuse). If the father of my baby ever walked away, I would hunt him down for child support, or tell him that he really needs to be apart of this. If he knew he couldn't handle the pressure of having a child, why would he have sex in the first place. Men need to learn to keep it in their pants and get over their sex drive emotions. If they know they do not want a kid, don't do anything to have one. It's that simple. Be responsible. That is all I have to say.
Katelyn Watterson 9:00
I think that sometimes the father leaves because he does not care about the person he got pregnant and just wanted to achieve an orgasm. If he was dating the girl or was married to her and said that he cared, he obviously didn't because he would help support her and want to comfort her in her time of need.I also think that some men do not think that it is their responsibility to take care of the child or be there.It is a "woman's job".They are only involved in creating life for a few minutes but the woman is involved for nine months while the baby is living and growing in her womb. These men are afraid, irresponsible,immature, and overall lacking in good character. It hurts and is hard to be a single mother; but I would rather the guy leave before the baby was born, than be there and be a horrible father. If a guy doesn't have the decency to stay for the baby, then he would probably be abusive or someone I wouldn't want around my child.
Looking over all the other comments that have been posted, anything I felt morally obligated to say has already been said.
So, I'm going to try to play Devil's Advocate here. Note the word try; this is not a title I take very often.
If I were in a position such as this, where I accidentally impregnated some woman and was forced to stay with her, despite my readily apparent irresponsibile nature (I did just accidentally impregnate someone, after all). I would be a terrible parent: I'm predisposed to dislike the little bugger once it pops out as it had just ruined my reasonably comfortable life without a child, I was perfectly willing to abandon it before it was born (had something not kept me there in the first place), and I just wasn't prepared for something like that to happen to me.
It may actually be to the benefit of the child if the father was like that and left before it was born.
I think that many guys just dont think about the consequences of their actions. Many of them may not be ready for a child, so for them it seems like it would be easier to just walk out on the woman. And thats what many of them do. I think when the man walks out it just means that he is scared. He doesnt want the responsibility of having to take care of another life. And if he doesnt want to that resonsibility maybe that child is better off without him.
I think there are many reasons the father would walk away, hes scared, doesn’t have enough money, does not want children right now. None of these are good reasons to do that to your unborn child! I think men may not feel the emotional and physical connects to the child like the mother does, because he does not have to carry it in his body for 9 months. I think I says that the man is not a man he is still a boy, because he is not able to take responsibility for his actions! I think it shows that the father is a coward, and not really a man. I think he would have to be extremely immature to do that to the woman and his soon to be child.
Kristine D'Urso
I never could understaned why any one would leave a baby. A father that would leave his child is a coward and selfish to no ends. So to try to come up with any reason would leave me in a bad mood. Scared to raise them, can't afford a baby, too young to have a baby, can't get alone with the mother- then you should of protected yourself with safe sex practice.
Danny W (8:00 a.m.)
Let me tell you guys a different story.
I had been dating a girl for 3 months and she became pregnant. She left me because she said she just wanted to be friends and lost the "in love" feeling. She's 31 years old. Now I have done my best to try and work things out..she says she doesn't want to have a future together and there is still five months to go. She has told me I can be in the delivery room and that we should go to prenatal classes together. This is hell. To not even try to work things out is sad and this baby is going to come into the world with a broken home.
I want to walk away from this. I'm sorry if this is wrong to feel but sometimes it's not about being a deadbeat dad. I didn't run or abandon her. She did. Now you tell me how you'd feel in my shoes.
Let me tell you guys a different story.
I had been dating a girl for 3 months and she became pregnant. She left me because she said she just wanted to be friends and lost the "in love" feeling. She's 31 years old. Now I have done my best to try and work things out..she says she doesn't want to have a future together and there is still five months to go. She has told me I can be in the delivery room and that we should go to prenatal classes together. This is hell. To not even try to work things out is sad and this baby is going to come into the world with a broken home.
I want to walk away from this. I'm sorry if this is wrong to feel but sometimes it's not about being a deadbeat dad. I didn't run or abandon her. She did. Now you tell me how you'd feel in my shoes.
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