Many children today in the United States become wards of the state because of their parents' drug habits or financial situations. This happens much more often than many people realize.
I would like your views on these questions:
1. Should children be given back to their parents after they have been rehabilitated? How will the state know that the parents are ready to be responsible parents to their children?
2. Should restrictions be placed on biological parents ? That is, until the parents have somehow proven they are ready to be good parents, should their time with their children be restricted? Should their parenting behaviors be monitored somehow?
Thanks for your time--
hillary fears (9:00)
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i think it depends on the situation and if the parent is fully rehabilitated. if the parent is truly willing to change and be a good parent then i think the child should be able to go back to them, but they should make the choice for themselves. if the child likes where they are now and don't really want to go back to living with their parent that should be their choice. i think only after professional help and follow ups with the patient from professionals will the state know if the parents are stable enough to get their children back. yes i strongly think that until they have proven they are good parents the shouldn't have the kids full time, it needs to be taken slowly to make sure everything goes smoothly. if a parent hasn't been a good parent or they were never there for their children they need to learn how to do that before they are given the children full time. also i think for the first year the parent needs to be monitored for their parenting behaviors and also to make sure they haven't gone back to the drugs or alcohol problems they had before.
kaleen bittner
Children that have been already adopted should not be given back. Ones that are still in a foster home, then they should be given back to they parents after their rehablitation. The parents must go to court and have a been rehabilated for atleast 16 months before their child can be returned to them. No biological parents shouldnt have restrictions on the own child. They should be under close watch for the first years afer the child returns to the biological parent.
I think if the partents have successfully completed the rehabilitation program and have shown the court that they are ready to get their child(ren) back then yes, they should be allowed their child(ren) back with one restriction, monitoring the parents behavior for about 6 months as well as talking to the child(ren). But if the parents shows any different, then I don't think they should get their child(ren) back.
If their children have already been adopted, there is no question, they should not be given back. I would have a problem giving them their children back because it's very hard to get completely off drugs once your hooked. There would have to be randum drug testing done at anytime and they would have to live in some kind of halfway house and attend some kind of group discussions on drug abuse. If they have been hooked for a long time they would probably have a hard time getting a job that would pay enough to support the family once they were back together.
I think that they should be monitored once they get out for a few months. Then if they do get worthy they can have their children back. I think that there should be a person that checks in on them periodically to see how they are treating their children. If they have finance problems, they should have that monitored also. If they really wanted their children and cared, they should try their hardest to get better. They would want to show the person who is monitoring that they are doing really good to earn the right to be back with their children. I like the idea of the restrictions with their children. they should see them at least once a day for a while, then move to weekends. Once they prove their fidelity to getting better, they should be able to have their children full time
Katelyn Watterson 9:00
If I understand the first question, should children be given back to a parent or parents after they have become sober, and should there be restriction on the parents? If this was the question; I believe that the children should not, just be given back because they have become sober. There needs to be some sort of study done on the parent or parents. This will find out if they are able to be parents or just a sperm or egg donor. In order to start the study there would need to be supervised viewing, background checks, drug testing, and the children’s opinion is also important. With all of this on the table, it needs to be addressed that no pedophiles, rapist, and/ or hard core child abusers should be allow to see their kids ever.
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Nicole Osby
1. I feel everyone deserves a second chance. And if the parents took the time to get their self together then they should be allowed to take care of their kids. Everyone is not perfect and people go through things and life. The state will only know by what the facilities and those around them tell them. Thats why they have the class and evaluation charts and meetings to see how well people or progressing.
2.I feel you should not keep the children from seeing their parents either. If they fill it is a big problem thats what caseworkers and other people or for to supervise visits and parents and kids. It could make the kid feel as if the parents doesnt love them, and the parents feel why should they go one with no motivation. I know a lot about this situation and its tough on both parts. So a third party needs to be involved to help both come together.
i think that the parent should be given one oppertunity with the returning of the child. If the parent has to go back to rehabilition, then the child should just be taken away. i dont think that the biological parents should be restricted unless the child does not want to see their parents or the parents abused the child.i dont really think that there is a ways to monitor the behaviores of the parents.
Mike Handal (9:00)
I have mixed feelings on this. Just because a person is able to have children does not make them a good parent. Once you bring a child in to this world, then the hard part comes, actually raising that child. And lets face it there are some people out there that do not have the right to raise their children. If a child has become a ward to the state, and the parent has taken the steps to rehabilitate they should be giving rights to see their children again. But before that child is placed back in the home the parent should have proven they are capable of caring for this child.
Should restrictions be places on biological parents? This question bothers me. The word biological is suppose to imply that they are giving more rights than say a person who did not give birth to that child. If the child is giving more love and care from a person who is not the biological parent, why should the child be returned to someone who did not take that responsibility serous to begin with?
I think that the child should have the choice of living with their parents again. If the child is not of age to make a reasonable decision (say less than 6 years old) I think a study should be conducted the child should be placed where he will benefit most. If the parent is not fully rehabilitated, then the child would not benefit from that environment. I think during the rehabilitation stage that the parent of a child should be monitored to see if they are making progress towards getting their child back.
I do not believe it is healthy to hide a child from his biological parents, but if his parent's are serious drug offenders, then that can be no healthier. In that case, or something similarly detrimental, I would suggest that the parents' time with the child be limited, even monitored.
Michael Endris(9:00)
Yeah I think it would be better for the children to go back to their parents. But the visits should be supervised until the parents show that they are rehabilitated. Even after the parents get their kids back the state should still follow up with the families.
I think that the child should be able to decide if they want to go back home with their parents or if they want to stay where they are. As far as when the parent is ready to be responsible, that should be determined by the state. They need to take into account the parents past histroy and current status. Examine the progress that they have made. Once they seem responsile enough, then they should be able to get their child back. I think that there should be restrictions on the parent until they are responsible enough. It will be really hard on the child if they see their parent in a bad state of mind. It could change their view of their parent forever. Therefore, the parent should not be able to see or be near their child until they are 100% ready to take responsibility for them.
Bryan Skaggs
I think that if it is something serious like drugs or alcohol abuse then no I think the child should be a ward of the state until the age of 18. If it is for something like a financial situation then I think that if there is another family member to help out then I think that maybe the parent could get the child back. Its the parent's job to be responsible and if they mess up they should pay. I dont think losing their child is right but in serious cases that might be what it takes to make the parent straighten up.
I believe that some people deserve a second chance and then again some people don't. If the parents truly love their children they will go through whatever program they needed to to get them back. Then if they are given back to their parents, it needs to be monitored some how. Someone close to the children need to communicate with them and make sure that thye are happy. No kid needs a bad chilhood, those are those were the best days of my life.
I think that if the child has biological parents the parents should be under tight restriction with visitation only for the first year after rehab. If the parents do well and dont go back to what ever it was they were doing wrong then they should start with the next step of taking parenting classes and learn what it really means to be a mom or dad and be a good role model for thier children. I think that the process after rehab for getting the children back should take up to two years so that the parents know how big of a mistake they really made and that they must pay the consequence. Afterwards they should be monitered still for about another year or two. Its a major issue, kids are not toys that you can just do whatever you want with because you want to be selfish and think about yourself.
If its an adopting parent then I dont think they deserve that child back. If it is an adoptive parent I dont think it should be any different they just need to be in the same boat and learn how to be a parent if they are willing to fully rehabilitate themselves.
If neither can rehabilitate then they should not be allowed to keep custody of their children.
Elizabeth Moore 0900
If the child or children have already been adopted then they should not be given back to their original parents. A parent that goes to rehab obviously cannot take care of themselves, so they do not need to have the responsibility of being a parent. People still have slip ups after they are done with rehab. Rehab isn't a joke and if someone has to enter into it then that shows they need to spend a lot more time on themselves.
Lesley Suding
There are so many different situations that could have caused the parents to lose custody of the child in the first place. I truly think that if the parent wants to get their child back that they would work their hardest and get their life straightened out. I think that when it comes to low financial standing and that if the family comes into some problems or even goes bankrupt i think that this should be no reason to take a child away. Any normal family can go into debt at any time, with just one person getting severly sick or any assortment of reasons.
I do think that when it comes to a parent being abusive or abusing a substance i think that the parent should have to under go many hours of therapy and counseling to make sure they are suitable to be back with that child and that they wont be hurting them again, and if they can fulfill those requirements then they do not deserve to have that child in their life and that it would be unfair for that child to have to deal with that, because life would be easier to just not know taht parent than it would be to have to deal with the abuse from that parent
Tom Miller
I was a ward of the state since I was eight. I think that parents should be allowed to have their children back once they can prove that they are ready to be good parents. Sometimes, the foster homes children are oput into end up being worse than the homes they were taken out of. This happened to me a few times. I think that foster homes should be monitored just as closely as parents who have had their kids removed. I think that also DCFS should have better reasons for taking the kids away in some cases.
I believe that parents should get their children back but only if they get regular drug tests done and get the "one strike your out" rule against them. No child should have to be subject to a parent who has a drug or alcohol problem. I also believe that children should be taken away of abusive homes as well. Children learn by example and if they see abuse and alcohol or drug abuse they will most likely do the same. I also believe that most problems we have today with shootings, gangs, drugs, etc. are because of their parents.
Justin Stout (1:00)
I believe that everybody deserves a second chance, even in the most messed up situations. Involving a child and their parent is a case that doest deserve a second chance. I do think after being from rehab that the parent should be monitored carefully that they're doing everything that a parent is suppose to do with random drug testing. I believe this because every child needs to know who their real parents are even if they do have a problem with drugs, etc... Then if they did mess up again I still believe the parent should be able to see their child. Limited time monitored and only on some occasions. This is a very difficult situation to talk about because you'd figure that if the parent wants to be with their child that bad that they would stop but I think it's easier said then done.
Cesar (9:00)
Yes, if the parents have been rehablitated the children should be returned. The state should also keep in touch, to make sure that the parents don't fall back into bad habits. When it comes down to restricions on parental visits, the famly shoud not be cut away from each other completely.(unless someone might get harmed) When these visits happen a third party should be there to make sure nothing will happen. I'm not sure what would be a good way to see these things happen, but i believe a famly should be together though thick and thin.
Danny W (8:00 a.m.)
I believe that it should be a child's choice whether they want their parents back in their lives or not. Even if it was for a short period of time, their parents' recklessness did have a very negative impact on them and a lot of consideration should be taken as to when they are ready to be parents again. If the child does want to be back with their biological parents, the state should be sure that the parents are clean and have taken a certain number of hours of parenting classes, depending on how severe their problem was.
Yes, restrictions should be placed on them for a while when they get their kids back, like a probationary period. Child service workers should be allowed to come at random to make inspections and evaluations of the home environment and the kids should meet with a counselor to discuss how they feel about home and their parents. I think having video cameras in the house might be too extreme, but these could be used in very extreme cases to make sure that parents are not going back to their old ways and just trying to hide it. After the parents have proved they can take care of their children properly and behave like responsible adults, they should be allowed to raise them without being monitored anymore.
My ex step daughter molested my daughter and her younger brother , she was 17 and had a boy friend when she was doing it... the prosecutors refuse to go after her, i feel if she was a male they would have. She the went on to have to children. the first one was taken by my ex husband, bloody diaper rash and cigarette burns, filthy house baby always dirty....before second one was born we notified CPS... they took that baby ar 6 months...they had been in the home monitoring her,,, the baby had the mentality of a newborn and couldn't move because he was always sitting in a carseat... that was in jan 08.. they are talkin about giving him back in a couple months...she hasnt changed , just playin the game to get him back, so she can have attention... how do we protect these kids any help
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