How do you feel about Interracial Dating? In your opinion, are white women taking all the "good" black men from black women? Or is that just a myth? To you, what is considered a "good" black man? And if you are in an interracial relationship, who made the first gesture to talk to the other sex first? Are white women bolder than black women when it comes to the opposite sex and race? If you have any other comments on the pros and cons of interracial dating, I would like to see them.
Thanks for your help!
Katie Connolly (1:00)
Katie Connolly (1:00)
24 comments:
I think interracial dating is perfectly fine. I don't think it's fair that people should stay within their own race. That's what makes each and everyone of us special, we are all made up of something different than what we may think. I don't believe all the "good" black men are being taken by white women. I just think most of the time white women end up picking the right "black" man for them. Just like black women (or any other woman), I think most black women are somewhat wise in that department, and many may already have themselves a good black man.
What women consider a "good" black man has a wide range of things. It's different for a lot of women. As for me, I think a good black man is an understanding guy, one who doesn't pressure their woman into doing anything that she doesn't want to do. He's honest, loving, and all the other things most women want in a man.
As far as white women being bolder than black women when it comes to the opposite sex race, I think that goes hand in hand. I think some rules would be somewhat the same for a white woman and black man as it would be for a black woman and a white man.
When being in an interracial relationship people learn new things from one another, such as their culture, traditions, and so on. I think that's one of the coolest thing. One of the negative things are that sometimes, people who are against interracial relationships may look at the couple funny.
I think there's nothing wrong with interracial dating. Skin color shouldn't matter,what should matter is the way they treat you.Black,white,brown,yellow,ect..the thing that counts is if you like him or her. If you like them as a person,then the color/race should be of no consequence.
As for the white women taking all the good black man-I don't know.
A good black man for me,(a good man without any specific race or color in mind)-is someone that is polite,respectful, considerate of others, loyal,honest,understanding,has a good temper,sweet,thoughtful,and it would be a bonus if he had a sense of humor.
I myself am in an interracial relationship, I am latina and I am dating a white guy named Zach,he's got some native american roots in him-which make him dark,tall and handsome.
He made the first gesture to talk to me while I was walking down the street and he saw me. I have been dating this guy for almost 4 months and the only thing I complain about him is that he smokes(but he's trying to quit),other then that everthing is more then fine between us.
As for white women in general being bolder toward the opposite sex-I think thats true. I'm latina and I don't date around as much as my white friends. I think it's the culture thing,in america it's not a problem for the girls to be dating as many guys as thier are stars-it's laid back in this culture then it is in others. So,for my dad -having a boyfriend shocks him,he doesn't think I should have one until after college! Which is absurd to me. If you really like a guy and the guy likes you back- then go for it,because when he's taken,it's to bad for you.
Yiveni
I dont think that interracial relationships normally work out but I also dont think that theres anything wrong with them. most of the time it seems that the familys are so diffrent that people dont really get along. But if the two couples are feeling it then go with it in my opinion. To me a good black man would be lil wayne haha you should hook up with him katie cause that dude is ballin!
Ryan Brown
i am perfectly fine with interracial dating, and see no problem with it. i personally have an afircan american aunt who my uncle met while he was over seas, and she is a good women, mother, and person in general. i dont think all the white women are taking the "good" black men. if a black women wants a "good" black man she can go out and get one herself because if there are enough for the white women to get then there are good ones out there. i dont really know if white women or black women are more aggressive when it comes to the opposite sex/race. i know that if i want to talk to someone no matter what sex/race they are im going to and i dont care. i dont think there are any cons to interracial dating it just depends on a persons families and beliefs. if someone is meant to be with someone they are going to be together no matter if they arent the same race.
kaleen bittner
Interracial dating is good for the society. It shows that many people are getting past what their parents or grandparents say. I don't believe that the white women are taking all the "good" black men from the black women. There are alot of couples with a black man and a white women. A "good" black man is the same as a "good any man." He has a stable life and is looking for a woman for love and comfort. He also should treat the women as a queen. I, as a black man, was in plenty of interracial relationships and almost ever time I made the first gesture. It seems that the world is more open to white female, black male relationships than black female, white male reltionships. Truly there are man white women today that say they could never see themselves with a white male. The reasoning for this I don't know why.
I dont think that there is anything wrong with interracial dating. We are all people with feelings and are no diffrent. Our cultures are diffrent but and i believe if we all get past that hump then the world would be better and everyone would get along. Interracial works out if U want it too. If you really love/like each other than you wont care what other people think when you get stares from people. In twenty years I hope people still arent looking at color if they are then its a sad world.
Justin Peacock 1:00
I think that everybody should be able to date whoever they want once past the age where they need parents permission, but please date the opposite sex. Interracial dating is just fine, it doesn't matter if the person is white, black, mexican, chinese, etc....if you like each other and you feel their's something there between the two of you, then who are we to judge who others date.
No, I don't think white women are taking all of the good black men. They all have the opportunity to be "good", some just need a little help getting there. I have no definition of a "good" black man. Different people have different opinions and different things they look for in a relationship.
Some may think that white women are bolder than black women in opposite sex/race relationships. But others say the opposite. It sometimes seems like little fights and arguments get started over this in some highschools and colleges.
I feel that interracial dating is fine. It seems like at our age and even younger that there is less and less raciesm. I don't think that white women are taking the good black men because I don't think you can really define what a good black man is. There could be totally different opinons on what make a man good.
I don't know if I would differ a good black man from any other type of good man. He is trustworthty, smart, loyal, clean, and has good morals. It seems that people sterotype them in such a way that most people either think you are in a gang or playing sports if your a young black male.
I don't think they are really bolder because there are plenty of black women white man relationships, but it may have to do with how closely the media and people in general look at the white women, black man relationships.
I do not think there is any thing is wrong with interracial relationships, but I feel some of my family members might. Mainly grandparents because they rarely saw that when they were growing up and I feel that they would disprove of it greatly.
I feel that it is fine, there is no problem with it. As for white women taking good black men away from black women... this isnt save the last dance. If a white women gets a good black man, good for her. The only problem i have with interracial couples is if they have kids. I think that mixed kids have it tough, cause they dont really have an identity it seems like.
I think that its nothing wrong with dating out side of your race. If you really care about a person, why should it matter if their not the same race as you. I think this topic relates to the black community more than any other race. Alot of black women judge black men who talk to women outside of their race. I really have a problem with that, because maybe black women should step their game up and stop complaining. Majority of the black females that i talked had a serious attitude problem, and they act as if you had to do everything. When i came across this one particular female that wasn't the same race, i really was impressed because she didn't come with alot of (baggage) like most black women due. That is why i think black celebrities fall for women outside of their race because women in our race are to stressful.
I think that its nothing wrong with dating out side of your race. If you really care about a person, why should it matter if their not the same race as you. I think this topic relates to the black community more than any other race. Alot of black women judge black men who talk to women outside of their race. I really have a problem with that, because maybe black women should step their game up and stop complaining. Majority of the black females that i talked had a serious attitude problem, and they act as if you had to do everything. When i came across this one particular female that wasn't the same race, i really was impressed because she didn't come with alot of (baggage) like most black women due. That is why i think black celebrities fall for women outside of their race because women in our race are to stressful.
Gregory Owens(1:00)
I feel that interracial dating is 100% okay. I don't think that people should decide who they are going to date based on their skin color. What really matters is if you are attracted to that person, if you enjoy that person, if you have things in common, etc. I do not think that white women are taking all the "good" black men, to be honest i'm not really sure what that's supposed to mean. To me a "good" black man would have all the qualities that any "good" white man would have or any "good" Asian man would have or any other "good" man of any nationality would have. If anything i would think black women are bolder, they just seem to be more outspoken.
Allison Hayes
I’m white and I lost my virginity to a black girl. I don’t care who, what, why, black, white, Mexican, Asian, gay, or straight people you date. I would date any of them with the exception of the gay person, but this is because I’m not gay. In fact I have dated outside of my race more than inside. Your question is, “In your opinion, are white women taking all the "good" black men from black women?” I can answer this I’m not a female the question following it I will not answer either. A good man is one that is trying to better their selves; this could be from school or a job. This “good” man would need to be an honest, and have goals. When I was in an interracial relationship I main the first gesture. In my opinion white women you can do more with ;-) but black women can be a lot of fun ;->
From Steve Gratkins (9:00 a.m.)
I think that real love is color blind. I do not think that women are taking all of the good black men from the black women, and that is a racist thing to say. There are plenty of them to go around. I think that some people are old fashioned and look at it as wrong but it's 2008 and time to get over it.
I personally don't like it. I was raised to date within my race. I have never dated outside. I do have friends that are African American, and Mexican. My sister did marry a mexican, I have to qualms about it. Him and I get along quite well. I think if my sister is happy then so be it. As long as you are happy with the person you are with (whether or not they are mixed) then it's fine. It took me a while to accept the fact that my sister did what she did, but I love my brother-in-law like my very own brother.
Katelyn Watterson 9:00
Having been in many interracial relationships, I don't feel that there is anything wrong with it. As who made the first step, that just depends on that person. Somethings I made the first move, other times I was approched. A lot of black women that I have talked to said that they didn't think I would be attacted to them, so they would never thought of going any father than a friend. Maybe the white woman and black man is a little more common so it's a little easier to go outside thier race. For the "good" man or woman, black or white, the only reason that it is brought up is because: one, the person against it is unhappy with their on relationship.(or lack of one)Two, they are uncomfortable with change and trying to fight it. As for pros and cons, I don't beleive there are any differnt than any other relationship.
Danny W. (8:00 a.m.)
No, I don't see anything wrong with it. I have a friend with a korean wife. You see alot of mixed couples in bigger cities, but in small towns, you don't see this happening. My neighbors are mixed and they are very friendly and nice. A lot of older people tend to frown on this, but they need to see this is a nation of many different nationalities and people fall in love.
I don't have a problem with interracial dating. I think if you actually love someone you should not look at color. But I also believe that alot of people in our society don't feel the same way. I know people in the older generations have a big problem with it and I'm sure its because they were raised in a different time then us where it WAS wrong and you were an outcast if you did date out of your race.
Justin Stout (1:00)
I personally think interracial dating is fine. There's nothing wrong with two people of the opposite race dating each other, it's very normal and common by now; unlike how it was back in the day. If two people fall in love with each other then let them be and not ask questions or give them the "eye" look. I do think interracial couples work because I have been in many and they aren't different or weird as if I was in one with my owe race. This the 21st century and times change for the best I believe and people or more open and adapted to this change.
Cesar (9:00)
I feel that interracial dating is fine if thats what people want. Personally I would not interracial date, but people that do I have no problem with. No the white women are not taking all the "good" black men. That saying has to be a myth. White women and black women are equal there is nothing that is better on either side. Same goes for white men and black men. If people like eachother then they should be able to date whether they are white or black. Thats there own decision not anyone elses. People always make judgements about couples, but no one knows who they are or how they feel about eachother.
Jennifer Woodward (12:00)
interracial dating does not bother me, but i would never date outside my race. The people that i am friends with and some of my extended family would look down on me for dating outside of my race. Also i find women outside of my race not to be attractive and i will not date someone that i am not attracted to .
I dont have any problem with interracial dating at all and doesn't bother me one bit. I think its a personal decision and should not be judged at all. I think that a lot of people do look at it in a negative way though. I also think if you date another race you have to be strong enough to brush off all the thoughts and feelings of others. Walking down the street you will not always be judged in a positive way, but if your happy it shouldn't matter. People that are closer to you like your friends or family are typically more accepting than a complete stranger, so you just have to brush it off.
I think that it should be left up to the person. i peronally do not think that there is nothing wrong with dating outside of your race. i have done it before. i think that its a good experience to see the things that other races or cuturals do differently. There are a lot of pros but i think that most people only think about the cons, because of what they have seen or heard.
--Twila Douglas
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