How do single mothers work and pay for daycare when childcare costs so much? In many cases, the child's father provides no support at all, and almost all the mother's earnings go to childcare, so there's no money left for the rest of the bills.
Do single moms quit their jobs and stay at home with their children? Who should provide the $$ in such a case? Do mothers get an extra job to help out and spend less time, or even no time, with their children? Or do they burden their family members every day to save money? In your opinion, how can single-mother situations be resolved?
Mykeshia Lipscomb (4:30)
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Kudos to anyone that can raise a child on their own! I have helped raise children of single parents. It's a difficult task. It takes a lot of effort to work and raise a child. I feel that a single mother should do whatever it takes to raise her child the way she feels is right. If she believes it will benefit her baby, then more power to her. And if she is so lucky as to have family and friends that are willing to help her out, then I don't feel like it could get any better. Having one person to love a baby is great. Having multiple people to love and care for a baby is even better.
*~Lyentte Reitmeier~*
I have the upmost respect for you, because my mother was a single mother who went thru the same thing you are talking about and everyday she made sacrifises so that me and my siblings can have a roof over our heads. so my advice to you is do what you feel will benefit your baby in the long run because your baby is the only one that matters.
*Maria Johnson*
I believe that you should not get pregnant until after you have a stable relationship with someone and you know that you both are sure and prepared for having a child. But I know accidents happen. My mother got pregnant with me when she was seventeen. My father ditched her then got another woman pregnant eight months after he got my mom pregnant. She raised me by herself while going to school and no support from my father. Back then it was easier to do that because things weren’t as expensive, like childcare. I definitely think that if there was a better way for the government help single mothers AND fathers (they are out there too needing just as much help) to help pay for daycare so that the parent could have the time to get better paying jobs. Then just maybe they can be more dependant on their selves and less on the government
Shayna Garrelts (4:30)
In truth I think that laws should be stricter in getting the father's help in it comes to raising a child. The father, or mother, should have to pay in either cash, time, or both in aid of raising the child. I have heard of a single parent going after the other for aid but things always end up getting tied up in courts and taking much to long. The goverment really needs to clean the court system up so things go along more smoothly. But other than that I would say make wise decisions before having a child. And if you find yourself as a single parent w/ no help from the other, my best suggestion is to do the best you can.
Single-mother situations sometimes just seem to work it-self out. For the ones that dont, hopefully they believe in some type of higher power and pray about it. The state/country should consider the citizens issues and continue to offer more programs that would help out single mothers.
-LaTia Alexander
There is a fund for single mothers to help out with daycare. It is called CCRS (Childcare Resourse Service). The mother has to work so many hours a week and this fund pays for their daycare. This is not a specific daycare it is whatever daycare you want that excepts CCRS. Unlike medicaid it is accepted all over Champaign County.
No, the mom should not quit her job or get an extra job. This would mean taking valuable time away from her child. And in Champaign County courts if a mom does this then the father can come in and take custody away from her. Believe me I know this first hand.
I don't really have an answer on how single mother situations can be resolved. I know the world isn't perfect but they should of thought about if they were ready for a child or not. If the dad ran out on them or doesn't help pay, maybe they should of picked a better father. I'm sure most women can tell how well suited a man is for being a father by dating him. At any rate, I'm sorry for the sinlge mothers out there. I know I've never done anything as hard as raising a child. If you have to pick between working and your child, you should pick your child. As for money, hopefully you have enough family and friends to help get you through the tough times and get a job after the child gets a little older. I think it just comes down to if a woman is really financially stable enough to have a child or not. I think it makes more sense to have a child with your husband and not your boyfriend to say the least.
Jesse Kaufmann
In order for a single mother to solve this problem, in my opinion, they are going to have to do what ever it takes to take care of there child and pay the bills. No one is going to just give them money so inorder for them to get though life its going to take alot of hard work. Whether they have to burden family or they have to working two jobs its going to have to be done somehow. IF the father is not paying support then there is legal means of making sure they pay. It would be unfortunent if the mother is rarly around to see the child but if he/she is properly taken care of it should be a huge deal.
You need a good suport system to be a single mom. Family help is always first if possible.You have to learn to work around your kids.Some mothers do need two jobs to support their familes, and hats off to them, but this is stressfull and somebody time is going to be cut short, your time or the kids time,and a real mother choose her kids and sometimes loses herself. You have to be strong to be a single mom. Much peace and happiness to all single strong women.
A lot of single mothers are almost embarrased to ask for government assistance. This would help them a lot. The government has many programs that attends to single mothers. Though there are requirements, a good mother who has good intentions would recieve financial assistance. Most get the assumption that because they ask for gorenmental assistance that everyone will automatically think she's poor. Stepping away from pride issues would be a great advantage.
Raising a child in itself is a difficult task...raising a child alone is even harder. I feel there is no easy solution for this problem seeing as every situation is different. I believe there are other options out there. For instance, churches, perhaps even your own church, that offer daycare and financial support for single mothers, they also offer counseling and a way to meet other single mothers. There is also family support and friends who may also be willing to help. And in dire situations the government also offers support.
-Ashley Gentner (4:30)
I think that single mothers should solve their problems with the fathers because the gov. is not someone to blame for ones actions. By means, if you have a child because you already have enough money, and that you are going to have enough time to be with them. I do understand that sometimes it's bad luck and that it's not the mothers fault that the father left them with no support. I don't get "moms" that just have children but don't take care of them. And it's so ridiculous when someone is just having babyes just to get money every year for "their support" that the gov. gives them because "they don't have enough money" because what mom's do is spend that money for them instead of their children. So I think that the gov. should help somewhat but they should make it hard and know that these people that don't have money are not lying.
~Marisol Oliva
I came from a background where my mom was a single mother raising 3 boys on her own, while working part-time and becoming a nurse part-time. My mom struggled a lot and was always in court trying to get child support so she could have money to care for us. I believe the biggest income for single mothers should be there kids father. He afterall helped with producing a child, and should therfore pay for it. There are so many problems in the court systems with mothers trying to receive money from the father and going back to court time after time with very little coming out of all the time they wasted. Although the systems have been getting better with the child support issue, it stills poses problems with most single mothers caring for there young
(Brandon Daniels)
First and foremost, don't have a child if you can't handle it on your own. You never know what is goign to happen between the two of you. But that doesn't happen, so you end up with single parents. If the father isn't helping any, take his low life ass to court. He has to pay until the child is a legal adult. If you don't decide to do that, I'm sure any loving family or friends would help you. Two jobs, eBay, Welfare...there's ways around the issue. Really the rough years are from when the child is born until it's 4 or 5. Some public schools include preschool where you can send them to get a jump on education, meanwhile, the woman could be at work or college (paid for by financial aid of some sort).
My mom worked and paid for everything herself. And there are four of us. Eventually she got married, and has help now, but she did it all on her own before. You've got to do what you've got to do. Trust in yourself and work hard and you can make it.
There is no easy solution to being a single mother. No, I don't think that you should quit your job and stay at home. There are agencies that offer assistance for child care for working mothers. There is no other job in the world like being a strong and hard working mother. You do what you have to do in order for you and your children to survive. Sometimes you may have to work a few extra hours in order to make your ends meet, but everythimg that you do is in the best interest of your child, so be it; making sacrafices is part of being a strong parent.
I wouldn’t know too much about this situation. I think that the best bet would be to work as hard as you can, and look for help from the govt, friends, family, and charities. I don’t know, it’s not a fair situation, and one I have had no experience with.
i don't want to come across as someone that doesn't care, but i think that in most cases, single moms have gotten in that situation purely by their own choice. they chose to have a baby and of course it was an unstable relationship, so the father isn't around to help. i hate to not take pity, but it's their fault. they should have thought of that before they didn't think at all.
i do understand that in some cases, the father has passed away or is away at war.
but i think that if you got yourslef into the situation, it's all yours on how to get out.
as for resolving the problems, it's the mothers themselves. don't have unprotected sex with someone you're not really with....it's that simple. or maybe it's not.
i think that there should be someone outhere to crack down on deadbeat dads. i think that it is total bull that a guy can go out and get 6 women pregnant and dont have to pay a dime for it. and if these guys dont have a job the state they reside in should put them to work cleaning up the side of the road or something and they should automatically send that money he earned to these women.
they only way i can think of solving this problem is dont get knocked up in the first place. And if you want kids then make sure you want to stay with that person. its the only thing that makes sense.
colin h.
It is really hard to solve a single mother situation. Single mothers have so many burdens that they do become overwhelmed. My mother is a single mother, though she hasn't been one her whole life she does a good job at it. I mean once a situation arises you have to take care of your children by any means.
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