Monday, November 10, 2008

Is it bad for children to be shipped off to daycare?


Is there a way for working parents to avoid sending their children to daycare? Does going to a daycare cause psychological issues about abandonment later in life, or are children at daycares more socially well-adjusted? Do some parents abuse daycare and send their children there when they are not working? If so, is that morally wrong?


Bonnie Stock (9:00)

18 comments:

English student said...

An alternative to daycare is parents could work oppose shifts or tighten their belts and one of them stay at home.

A daycare is bringing a stranger into your child's life that is not needed. How many parents teach their children not to talk or go with strangers? But by placing them in daycare you are saying hey it is okay. Not only is the provider a stranger but everyone in the place is. And do you really know what that provider is all about? Are his values the same as yours? You can check into the background as much as you want but if someone wants to hide a part of their life they can.

All children need socialization skills this is true. But years back, that was provided for by the family. Parents played with and taught their children. Now we have to pay outsiders to provide what we cannot.

I do not think they are more socially adjusted. They can except change easier, because they are used to it. But what they find in being socially adjusted, they lose in love and security.

Parents are so used to sending their children to daycare and keeping them out of their hair, why not. Is it right? No, but try telling them that...they have nine bazillion excuses on why they should.

Pam Boatz (9:00)

Anonymous said...

An alternative to daycare is parents could work oppose shifts or tighten their belts and one of them stay at home.

A daycare is bringing a stranger into your child's life that is not needed. How many parents teach their children not to talk or go with strangers? But by placing them in daycare you are saying hey it is okay. Not only is the provider a stranger but everyone in the place is. And do you really know what that provider is all about? Are his values the same as yours? You can check into the background as much as you want but if someone wants to hide a part of their life they can.

All children need socialization skills this is true. But years back, that was provided for by the family. Parents played with and taught their children. Now we have to pay outsiders to provide what we cannot.

I do not think they are more socially adjusted. They can except change easier, because they are used to it. But what they find in being socially adjusted, they lose in love and security.

Parents are so used to sending their children to daycare and keeping them out of their hair, why not. Is it right? No, but try telling them that...they have nine bazillion excuses on why they should.

Pam Boatz (9:00)

English student said...

Well i think that sending your child off to daycare isnt imorally wrong, its ust not the right thing to do sometimes. i was sent to a daycare kinda, and the experiace was not that bad. When your in a daycare you get to meet alot of new faces and that helps you with your ability to make new fiends. Now yes it does play with your mind because your mom and dad send you to someone else to watch over you which does make you feel like you are being abandoned, but they are just trying to make a living so the kid can grow up and have everything that it will need in life.
Brandt Breymeyer (9:00)

Anonymous said...

You have two categories of parents though, unplanned and planned. Planned parents could have planned to avoid daycare, if they wanted. For unplanned, it may be harder. Planned parents can work something out ahead of time, save up so one of them can stay home, opposing work shifts, or other things. Unplanned parents may still need to work and go to school so they can provide for the family, and daycare is the option they may choose. I went to daycare and abandonment never crossed my mind. My parents dropped me off and at 1 o'clock they picked me up. If anything that taught me they would always be there for me. Sadly, parents do abuse it. Sending a child to daycare, when you could be bonding with them, is wrong. Children these days need the care of a parent and when the opportunity comes, you don't ship it away.

Anonymous said...

I was never in a daycare, lucky for me my Grandma was happy to take my siblings and I. Daycare seems like a great place to let kids go to for interacting with others their age and giving them an opportunity to learn something. If the company a parent works for had a daycare at their work I think this would be a great solution. The kids would be close to their parents yet still in the care of adults.
Daycares should be places that allow for kids to become more socially well adjusted, I think how kids feel about daycare reflects the parents opinion and adults running the place. If parents look into many options to find a great daycare with adults that provide a education and fun experience then the kids may be more willing to enjoy the daycare.
I do believe that some parents abuse their responsibilites by sending their kids off to daycare when it's unneccessary. Parents need to send time with their kids and be a family. If a parent isn't working and doesn't have other obligations then he or she needs to be apart of their childs life, especially at a young age. I do believe it's morally wrong to just drop a kid off and not take their parental right to watch over them.

Anonymous said...

I don't think that shipping kids off to daycare causes psychological issues. As a kid, i was sent to dacare everyday in the summer and every afternoon after preschool. i don't think that i have any issues or abandonment problems.

parents need to work to support their kids so the only option, i think, is to send them to daycare.

i don't know of any parents that abuse daycare but if they do, that's horrible and yes, morally wrong. any parents that don't want to spend time with their kids....well they're the ones who have the issues.

English student said...

I do not think that there is another way for parents not to send there kids to daycare while they go to work. Young kids can not just stay at home by thereselves. I think it is good to send a child to daycare because it does build social structure in their lives, cause if they stayed at home and did not go play with other kids, they would become shy. If a child comes home from a daycare, and is being abused or scared to go to daycare, that is a different story, then the parent should stop taking their child there and find a different one. Sending your child to daycare when you are not working is wrong in my opinion. I think that the parents should spend all the time they can with their child, unless they have to work.

Kevin Dozier 9:00

English student said...

I went to day care since when i was 1 until i was 10 and i think it helped me become a more social person. I have childhood friends that i met there and that i am still friends with today. If i hadn't gone off to day care my life would have been really different. I Probably wouldn't have had friends until i started school, and i might not have talked to my classmates because i would have been afraid. I dont think that parents who dont work but still make their kids go to day are doing anything wrong. They are letting their child or children be with other children.

English student said...

i was sent to day care of some sorta most of the time between 2-5 and i didnt really mind. granted some of the places were better than others but i understand now it was just what needed to be done. both my parents had to work and i was just to young to take care of myself. i am thankfull that everywhere i went the people were kind and good with kids though even if some were more strickt than others. but either way i turned out ok and i think daycare is just fine as long as you do a little bit of research before you send your kids away.
Jesse Meyer

Anonymous said...

I do not see anything wrong with daycare. I went to day care my whole childhood, both my parents worked. It does not cause any psychological issues (if anything i think that kids who are not exposed to anyone other then their family will have far more psychological issues later on in life than a child who went to daycare). Daycare is a chance for kids to build their social skills at a young age and become used to being around differnt people then they are used to. Like i said I started going to daycare when i was very little, and on my first day of kindergarden i was very thankful i did because i already had a lot of friends in the class and was not that shy. Once i got into school i only went to daycare for about 2 hours after school so i never felt as though i didnt get to spend much time with my parents. As far as parents sending thier kids to daycare when they are not working, i think that is crazy because why would they pay some one to watch thier kid when they are capable, i do not know any parent who would do that.

Anonymous said...

I don't think daycare is a bad thing if the parent is still actively involved in the child's life outside of it. It can be a nurturing environment for the child while the parent is away at work for the day, but if the parent is just trying to "ship" their child away, then that is not okay. It shouldn't cause any psychological problems, because it helps them prepare for when they will be in school in the future.

English student said...

if both parents have full time jobs there is no way around sending their children to a day care facility. and as for the psychologiacal effects on a child, i blieve that it depends on the child and the type of family that child comes from. if the family encourages independence then the child will be fine. but if the family tends to smother the child and not let them figure out how to get out of situations and develop then the chld will have problems fitting in later in life.
Derek Diesburg(9:00)

Anonymous said...

In some cases i think that parents can get away with out daycare. But most parents, especially younger parents who have jobs and are more dedicated to their careers, have a dilemma on their hands. Maybe family could help out and watch the child, but if you dont have family there is not choice but daycare. I think it depends on the daycare and how its run, whether or not it could cause psychological damage. If your child is curious and likes daycare then it could be very beneficial to them. Im sure some parents send their kids to daycare with no need. Maybe just to get some time away or some other things. I think this morally wrong. If you have a child you have to be dedicated to him or her.

English student said...

All parents need breaks, and that is precisely what daycare is meant for. So the paretns can go to work and get the things that need to be done, done! It is up to the parent to pick out a daycare that will best suit the needs of the parent and the child. Are there bad daycares that could cause harm to your children, yes, more than likely that they exist. Are all daycares bad? No there are great deaycares that prepare children for school settings. This setting and these ideas will benefit the child and begin prepareing them for their school career.

Ashley Gentner (4:30)

English student said...

I beleive that daycare is a good place for a child to be rather than with a babysitter in their own house. The child learns to be socially active and would learn more at daycare than they would just playing by theirselves at home. All though it is a good place for a child to be, the paretns shouldn't abuse the right to leave their children their more than nessacary. The parents should spend as much time as they can with the child and not just abandon him/her at a daycare all day till it is time to go to bed.

Ben Legner (1:00)

Anonymous said...

There is nothing wrong with sending your children to daycare. I went almost everyday for like 2 years and i don't have abandonment issues. Ya, i think that kids can become more social because of going to daycare. I think that some parents do. I don't know any personally but i would assume do. And i don't always think that it is wrong to do that. If an adult just needs a day to themselves with out any distractions throughout the day, then i think its fine to send them to daycare for the day. But if they do it everyday, and never work, then i think that is a problem. If it is your child and you have the time to raise and spend time with them, then you need to do it.

Anonymous said...

I think the only way for parents to avoid sending their children to day care is for the parent to work different shifts or to have a family member to watch their children. I don't think that it causes psychological or abandonment issues for children when they go to daycare. I personally think that it's good for children to be around others their age and by the time they become school age they are used to the enviroment. I have to say that there are some parents who drop their children off at daycare when they aren't working and I don't think that's right. I understand that sometimes parents have other things to do,but they still should only leave their children at day care while they are at work.

English student said...

sometimes i dont think there is a way to avoid sending your children to daycare. i think children should not be sent there until they are a certain age. probably atleast 12 months. but i dont know for sure. children need to be around there parents as much as possible the first couple of years there growing up. thats what shapes their future.
colin h.