Wednesday, November 12, 2008

Gay adoption . . .


Do you feel that gay couples should be able to adopt? Does it really matter as long as they give the child what they need as far as attention, care, and love in the household? Do you think it’s better for a child to be raised in a gay household over a heterosexual household that’s dysfunctional ?
Thanks for your help--
Joy McNeal (9:00)

26 comments:

Anonymous said...

Being gay has nothing to do with whether you are going to be a good parent or not. So yes, I feel that gay couples should be allowed to adopt. All children need love and guidance. Being gay does not mean you have been left out of the ability to do either one.

It has been my experience that gay couples actually have an insight to properly raising and showing love to children. Maybe it is because of all the hassels they had to deal with when they were growing up that gives them a softer and firmer view.

Anonymous said...

i come from a strong christian family and so i do not support gay rights. i do have several gay friends and i am not prejedice against them. i would think that it may be hard on the child when he or she grows up. they won't have a mom and in today's society, they'll get teased like crazy.

when i think of a standard family, a mom, a dad, and kids come to mind, not two dads. yes, giving the child love and care is important, but what will the child think when they grow up?

English student said...

I dont think it should matter if you are gay or straight when it comes to addopting, if you are a good parent. I think that if a gay couple wants to adobt and raise a child to the best of their ability, then they should be able to. I think that a gay couple who takes care of a child is more deserving then a couple who doesnt take care of their child.

English student said...

i dont think that the couple being gay would matter in the slightest. as long as there are two responsible adults that are willing and able to provide the love and care a child needs everything will be ok. I think the people that are against gay adoption/gay marrige are just being self-righteous and nieve. Just because a book writen by a buntch of white guys a long time ago tells you to do somthing doesnt mean you should. (i know thats an over simplification of the bible)i believe pretty much the same thing when it comes to gay marrige, pitbull, and abortions. If you dont like them then don't get one and leave everyone else alone.

Anonymous said...

Not yet. The world isn't yet adapt to be able to handle this. The child would be teased heavily and create inner problems in him alone. I have nothing against gay individuals, so it's not like they wouldn't parent the right way, but for the sake of the child in this current time period, it shouldn't be allowed.

Anonymous said...

NO THEY SHOULD NOT I think it does matter I mean why would they wanna take an innocent kid and fuck em all up in the head.Its one thing for the guys to wanna hit another guys hershey highway and for the girls to like kissin the fish but come on people lets leave those that dont have a choice in the matter out of it

Anonymous said...

Just because people are gay doesn't mean they shouldn't have the same rights as everyone else. There are homeless children starving to death all over the place and if someone wants to bring them in and take care of them, not to mention give them life, what the hell is the problem?

Being gay doesn't mean they're going to be horrible parents. It doesn't mean that they're going to force their son or daughter to be gay, and it doesn't mean that the kid is going to be screwed up.

There are plenty of parents who have raised children terribly, and like it or not, they probably weren't gay.

Anonymous said...

I think love can come from anybody, whether you are gay or not. Children need love, and if two gay men can give him that, then thats awesome. There are problems with it though. Every child needs both parents i feel. A man cannot give everything that a mother can give and vice versa. There is also the possibility that the kid may get harrassed throughout his life for having gay parents. I'm not exactly sure where i stand on this subject. I know that gay parents can definately show love, just as much as anyone else. So maybe they should be able to. I don't dont know just yet Though.

Anonymous said...

Well, this subject is kind of hard because my Aunt is a lesbian so I have many insights on this. while half of my family is supportive of her lifestyle, my mom is very much against it...especially since her partner has three children. I've babysat for lesbian friends and gone out with them, I don't think there is a problem with adoption or gay couples having children. I agree when some others say that being a good parent isn't about bing a lesbain or gay.
But then, there is definitely the problem for the child(ren) as they grow. There is no doubt that even now, it isn't easy to be gay or have gay parents growing up. I would hate to know that because a couple wanted a child so bad they were willing to expose them to the hate and ridicule that may follow.
As for which household should a child be raised in, I think they need to have both genders as a parental influence. It's not to say I want a child to live in a dysfunctional family because I would rather they live in a stable, gay household than a heterosexual. But coming from a more conservative view, I would want to have a male and female for parents

English student said...

Being Gay I believe does not mean U can't funtion well enough 2 be a parent, but it's kind of confuising, compared 2 life and the roles that's been layed out for Us by society. I believe a child needs 2 see a man and a woman bond, connection, chemistry expressing love by life design, that's the way it should be in my eyes but love has no gender love is a spirit but still love will blind U from the truth,to really see love I believe a man & a woman needs 2 be the narrators & the authors of love on earth as we know... classmate T ware

English student said...

Most gay people i have met are usually more emotional than norms. Wether it be two guys or two ladies being the parents as long as thw child gets a good home and a loving family. But when the child grows up it would be really weird and the child might be made fun of.

Ben Legner (1:00)

English student said...

no i don't thimk that gay people should be able to adopt a child. they may be able to provide a good home but, society today does not agree with the idea of coming from a gay family. the child will end up being made fun throughout his early life. and what about the support a mother figure provides for young child? where would that come from. a father, no matter how hard he may try can never give the same kind of support that a mother can.
Derek Diesburg

Anonymous said...

I think that gay couples are more then able to give a child a wonderful life, I am sure that they can give the child all the love, attention, care, and everything else a straight couple can give the child. But it will be very rough for that child growing up, the child will obviously get picked on a lot growing up. The child will also be very confused as to what is right, they will see their freinds' parents and wonder if that is the right way to live but then see their parents and wonder if that is right. I do feel that it is unfair for gay couples to not be able to have kids of their own to raise just for the fact that they are gay , but you have also got to think of the kid and if it is really fair for them to have such a different life style and make them such a target for their peers to pick on. But maybe growing up in a gay household will just expose the child to differernt life styles and show that it is ok to be different and in the long run make that child a stronger person when they grow up.

Anonymous said...

The whole gay thing is hard for me to talk about I have gay and bi friend’s. I don’t think that they would be bad at raisin a family. When I was growing up Mike had two moms and everyone gave him so much crap for it. I don’t know if having two moms made him bi, people say that you are born that way I don’t know there is no medical proof. I would like to think that it is a chose that people make. I am old school gay is gay I don’t want to see any of it, guy on guy or even girl on girl it all turns my stomach. As far as letting them have kids NO for the fact that the kid will be teased to the point of therapy and that is not right. Yet on the other hand in a dysfunctional can cause them damage also, so for me I guess that it should be left up to the kid if they are to young to say then no.

Anonymous said...

A gay couple is fully capable of giving a young child love, attention, and a safe home. However, since I do not support gay marriage, it is hard for me to say that I would support two gay people adopting a child. I would worry about the way that child would be treated in school on mother's day or father's day when he has either two moms or two dads. Also, I think both genders play a major role in how a child is brought up, and a family is not complete without the influence of a male and female parent. If a gay couple was meant to have a child, then it would be physically possible for them to reproduce, which it isn't. But, I would rather see a gay couple with a child than a homeless child begging on the streets... so it's hard for me to say that gay adoption should be illegal.

English student said...

It doesn't matter if your gay or straight because it has nothing to do with the parenting skills as long as the child gets love, attention, and a good home. My opinion is that gay people should have the right to adopt kids. I have a friend who has two moms and she has turned out fine, I mean she received the same education as me and both parents love her and would do anything for her. I don't want to offend any one, but the churchy people need to give this topic a break and just worry about their own family. I know you're saying that I will be going to hell for that comment, but personly I don't care because gay people have the right to be happy.

Chris Waters

English student said...

i got nothing on gay people but you are raising that kid and he is goin to learn from you. the kid is more likely pick up sword fighting with wieners than learning how to catch a fish.

Andrew Cochran

Anonymous said...

I think that all couple should be able to adopt if they can show that they can provide sufficient support for the child. Whether or not its better for a gay couple to raise a child is the question. If you want to look at it from a sociological perspective then it would be more beneficial for a heterosexual couple to raise a child. Women and Men possess certain characteristics that would beneficial for the development of the child. Women provide more emotional support, while men provide the guidance neccessary for raising a child. Whether you have two female raising a child or two males, it wouldnt be the same as a heterosexual couple. Not to say that they wouldnt be good parents but from a sociological view it would be better for a heterosexual couple to raise a child.

English student said...

I believe that there are many same-sex couples out there that would make great parents. However, I find it unfair that a child is brought into a situation that will cause confusion and severe teasing throughout their schooling. It’s just not right that a child should be forced into that when they could have already gone through a lot.

Brittany Clapper 9:00

English student said...

I think (from a strong christian view) that gay couple should not adopt. But than again they should have the right to just like any other couple. I do think it is better for a kid to grow up in a gay couples home that is loving and caring, than a disfunctional non-gay couples. Kids need to be loved when they are growing up whether it is by a gay couple or not. Statistics have shown that it is more likely for a kid to grow up to be gay in a heterosexual household, than by a gay couple.

Kevin Dozier 9:00

English student said...

It shouldnt really matter if the people are gay or not. 2 people that will care for a child is alot better than a child living in an orfanage its whole life. But at the same time being gay should be a choice instead of growing up with it their whole life. im sure gay people would have a diferent outlook on that last statment but that is the way i feel about it.
randy bustle

Anonymous said...

It should't matter if a couple is gay or not when it comes to adoption. A child needs to be loved and taken care of and whoever can provide for these things should have them. Sometimes society makes it difficult for gay couples but they are human just like everyone else and their sexual orientation has nothing to do with their parenting skills so I don't think it should be an issue.

Anonymous said...

no i dotn think it should be allowed, for the sake of the child. that kid may have a good homelife but at school as soon as people find out he has2 dads or 2 moms he is going to catch so much hell over it. i think that he would have a hard time making friends because many people might not talk with him just because who his parents are.

English student said...

i dont neccessarily have anything against gay people but i sure as hell dont want it around me. if thats what they want to do, fuck it. but the kid will probabaly grow up to be gay also. before you know it gay people will be everywhere.
colin h.

Anonymous said...

i do not think that gay people should be able to adpot kids b/c htere are certain things that kids need to learn form there mom or dad. lets just say for example that its 2 dude that got married and adopted a kid how would the kid no which on is the mom if they both are. i think its bullshit.

English student said...

hell no I do not because if you can not have a baby the right way then you should not have one at all.


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