Does Divorce Affect
a Child’s Life?
Does
the child need a person to talk to in a divorce? What is the impact of the
child’s life after divorce? Do the parents try to control the child’s feelings
on how he or she may feel about the other parent? Can a divorce be a positive outcome
towards the child’s life? Does divorce affect the child at school? What kind of
reactions should you expect from a child whose parents are going through a
divorce? Does divorce affect the child differently depending on their age? If
so, what age does it affect the child the most and why? Is it a positive or
negative thing to have step parents in the child’s life? When the child is an
adult will he or she think it is normal to divorce?
16 comments:
i am a child from divorced parents and it was hard to get over the fact that they were spiting up and that they would never get back together again, i did have my mother to talk to and she told me why she was leaving my dad and how it was for the best for me and my younger brother.the impact after divorce is sad because you develop lost feeling for one parent because you see as a child that one left your family out to die and you start to disrespect one parent.also society today tends to believe that divorce is the most common way of thinking.
Tyler B
I am a child from divorced parents. I was 11 years old when my parents divorced and I was confused a little when they divorced but I got over it and everything worked out fine in the end. In a way I am glad that they divorced because if they had not divorced I would not have my little half brother or sister. Divorce can be nasty if the parents are fighting in front of the children. Divorce is a lot more common today and many people have divorced parents and it usually turns out fine. Sometimes the children think that it is their fault when really it usually is not so that can be hard on younger children. I think the hardest thing for children when their parents get divorced is that they have to go back and forth to one parent to the other and at first it is really weird to them until they get used to it.
Shelby Walker
I haven't went through one but depending on the child's personality they might need someone to talk to. Some kids a divorce can effect them in a negative way tremendously some kids go down hill and some even learn from it and become stronger. Sometimes the parents will try to convince the child things about the opposite parent, personally i feel like that is one of the worst things you can do in a divorce.That can make the child have mixed feelings about his parents especially the younger the child. Divorce can effect a child in school, it is up to the child to stay strong and focused on what is important.Maybe the child will become a bit of a loner, or maybe become a little antisocial. Yes i think age plays a major factor in the divorce, but more than age i think the relationship the family had effects the child most. Step parents can be good as long as they aren't the type who try to replace the lost parent, or turn the child against the other parent. I think statically it might say children who's parents who went through a divorce are likely to get divorced. But once again i think it all depend on the child, many people who's parents got divorced will remember how it effected their family and not want to do that to their family.
Ian 10:00
I am a child from divorced parents. I was only 1 so I really did not know what was going on. My personal opinion is that divorced is a bad situation that can end up being a positive situation. Parents constantly fighting whether it is in front of their children or not will affect them. The child knows everything going on, but does not know how to handle it. Once the parents come to a conclusion to get a divorce it could end up being the best decision. The parents once they are not together, may actually get along, and it will show the child that no matter how much they fought, they will still care for each other. The parents after divorce will be more happy in the end and stress free.
-Jonathon.
I feel like if the child has siblings it can make a dirvorce easier, but it also can make it harder. The child may exhibit some abandonment issues. When it comes to controlling the child it all depends on the maturity on the parents. If both parents agree not to down one another around the child the on that aspect, but when one parent does something that the other doesn't like; then that's when you will hear " trash talking" The child future can be good, or bad it kind of like a coin toss, it can go either way. Seeing a single parent can make the child to be self relant, indenpendant. It also can be emotionally crumbling. Some children feel they could have done something to prevent the break up. Depending on the age it will affect the child, like during a early age it can have small affects. If the child age is between 2-10 the child should adapt. Because the child will be around the step parent more, the step parent should then show the child love and to show their best intentions. But if the child is between 13-18 the child has knows who their parents are they know if they want to accept the step parent.
THE FAT MAN (8:00)
While divorce can be devastating for a parent, it can be just as harmful to children. Children often feel powerless when adults separate. Fear of losing a parent is common and they struggle with emotions and feelings of helplessness. Some may even blame themselves for the family's break up. It is essential to communicate with children about what is happening and reassure them that they are not to blame. Children may feel let down when they cannot share good news about achievements with both parents at the same time and experience their joint support. The child loses the close connection with the parent he or she is not living with. Some parents criticize each other to their children and this is destructive and puts their offspring in an extremely awkward position. If the divorce entailed a move, the child may lose contact with old friends and support networks and have to form new ones while they are most vulnerable.
Shane Rasor
If the child wants someone to talk to then yeah..there is no right way to answer this, but my mom and dad were never married. When she married my brother and sisters dad i couldnt wait for them to get a divorce in the end they did and it was the best thing that could of happened to all of us. I do not care for him and my brother doesnt like him. I think a divorce can a ffect a childs life either positively or in a negative way as well it just depends. I think that in not all but a lot of seprarated familes the parents do bad mouth eachother a lot and as a kid you dont know who to believe when one parent could be spreading lies and one actually telling the truth about the other. Like i said it all depends..in my situation it was the best day of my life, but for another child it could be the worst so depending on the situation depends on how it will affect the child at home, at school, around other people and anything else. You could either expect a positive change in the child or one that isnt so good. If the child is upset about the divorce you could probably expect the child to be sad, angry, distant, rebellious and mad at one of the parents for what happened. In my case it was negative to have a step parent it gave me a brother and sister that i love but other then that it was hell on earth, but some kids end up loving their step parent more than their real one. And no I dont think a child will think it is normal to divorce, my husband and i both come from broken families and never want to get a divorce! we know it isnt normal. I can see if you are getting divorced 3, 4 and 5 times then yeah your kid is probably going to think it is normal.
kristina young
The child does need a person to talk to to in a divorce. No one dreams about their parent getting a divorce or likes it at all. I don't think parents try to control the child's feeling on how he or she may feel about the other parent because that parent know that either their mother or father. I think in certain area a divorce can be positive outcome towards a child life. During the divorce process it can affect the child life at school and his or her grades.
I expect a kid reaction by looking for someone to give them the attention that they want from someone. The divorce does affect the child differently depending the age because the older they are, the better understanding they have of it the situation.
I think it could be positive for a step parent to have a person in the kids life because they could the child get through some of the tough times.
Kyle Ogle (Noon)
My parents divorced when I was 2 so I dont remember it at all. My mother remarried immediately so I had a father figure, but it definitely affected me. I never had a real bond with my step father. I grew up knowing I had another dad but I wasn't allowed to see him or that side of the family like my grandmother, which I did remember fondly. My 3 boys have definitely been affected by my divorce. Although there are special circumstances due to domestic violence and they cannot see their dad, it has affected them by not having a male father figure in the house. They seem to be a little empty about it. I have gotten them in the CU 1 to 1 mentor program and I myself take on a mother and father role, but it isn't the same. All anyone can do is what's best for their kids at the time. Kids are pretty resilliant and with enough love and guidance have the choice as adults to let it consume their lives in a negative way, or move forward and choose to be happy despite the circumstances.
Angela Cole
In my opinion, every child is different. There are child’s which divorce extremely affects them but then there are others who tend to seek for the best. What I mean by that is that they are hurt and might need some guidance but they always look at the bright side and make sure they continue their lives. At times there are kids who want to do well in life to be able to help the parent they stayed with. Though, what child doesn’t want to have both their parents? The impact of divorce on some children though, tend to be the fact that they feel left out, not loved and they tend to seek for what they think they do not have at home. That is why some consider the possibility of joining gangs or being bad children. Some though turn into really hard children to deal with but what they do not know is that they are hurting the parent they stay with the most. There are parents who tend to talk bad about their other parent so they will hate them. But like in everything there are also parents who know that relationship problems do not have anything to do with them so they still let the child have a great bonding with their other parent. At times divorce can affect the child at school. Hey tend to think about that and all they think of is that they are going to be sons or daughters of one parent so they do not focus in school just like any other problem would. Though, I think that age might have a difference because as a young child they still do not have the ability to understand and cope with the fact of their parents divorcing and older teenagers kind of see what is happening and are able to comprehend but not all the time. The fact of having step parents all depends on what other person their parents choose and how the child is willing to cope with it. I mean I personally think that age has to do with this too because as an older teenager, in my opinion the step parents do not have a say with the child and I would let my parents be happy. Nowadays divorce is something normal and couples tend to do it a lot.
Angelita T. (8:00)
I think divorce affect a childs life in many ways. They feel as if they have to choose sides and as a child you shouldnt have to do that. They might think its their fault that their parents are splitting up. When kids get into their teens it causes them to outlash an not listen to their parents, they feel as if they can do what they want cause they have two sets of rules to follow.
D
Being a student with a psychology major and a plan to pursue a job in therapy, divorce can have a huge impact on a child. Especially if the child tends to be on the emotional side. Because I grew up being close to both of my parents, I could not even imagine trying to live through a divorce. It would have ripped me apart. I realize that divorce is becoming more and more prevalent in today's society, which makes me kind of sad to be honest. It's sad that more children have to live their life with their parents living in separate homes. Divorce can affect a child in so many ways: socially, mentally, and physically. Children with divorced parents are more likely to either become overly reserved or to act out in a social environment.
If the divorce is absolutely necessary and a couple is doing visible damage to their child while being together, then yes, they should get divorced. I believe that you should do whatever is best for your children. Divorce is a hard situation for everyone involved and you don't want to put your child through that kind of hardship unless it is absolutely necessary.
~Megan Strom
I do think that the child needs someone to talk to about divorce. I’m not a child that has ever have to deal with divorce but I do that most of the time the child think it’s their fault that their parents are getting a divorce. The impact on the child’s life is different they have to be at one parents house then took over the other parents house. It’s hard on them. I would think that parents would try to control their child’s feeling about the other parents. Making sure that they love each parent and not to act any different towards their parents. Yes a divorce can be positive towards a child life; if it was an abusive relationship it’s better to get the child out of that environment. Yes a divorce could affect a child at school. Hearing people talk about their parents being in the same household, and the child knowing that the he or she has to go two different places each weekend can be very upsetting. Some of the reactions a child might have is getting into fights for no reason, talking back, being lonely and to themselves. Depending on their age yes a child can be affected differently. Older children can deal with a divorce better, they begin to understand and probably have notice the change between the parents. Younger children take it really hard, they begin to blame themselves for the divorce like if they acted better than the parents would be together. I think that it can be a good thing to have step parents. To have a male and female in a house hold is good. They can still communicate with the real parents too. Sometimes the child is scared to be committed in a relationship or they try to do everything to make a relationship work so it won’t turn out to be a divorce. ~Sharday8:00)
As an individual with parents who are divorced, I may subsequently have a slanted opinion on this one. My personal view on this is that if the parents aren’t able to collectively provide a nurturing environment for their child, then they shouldn’t be together. If the child will be better off with separated parents, then why stay together? Historically, of course, there are certain moral ‘perks’ of having parents that are married. ‘The child will grow up with better moral foundations and look at relationships in a better light.’ I’m sorry, but that is traditional non-sense. It logically makes sense to break-up if it’s better for the child in the long run. The contemporary world that we live in is full of divorce, and I don’t think we should be shadowing that from our loved ones. Relationships don’t work out, it happens.
In terms of the affect on the child, I certainly seemed to have turned out alright, as did my brother. My parents divorced when I was around 5, I don’t particularly remember it well, and by now the concept of my parents being together is nothing but peculiar to me. I can however, understand how a teenager with divorcing parents could be affected negatively, it would in fact be the polar opposite of my situation. A child between the ages of 13-17 would know nothing but the idea of their parents being together, and as such that period may very well be one that affects them negatively. In the long run however, my personal opinion is that the child would indeed be better off.
Zach Daniels
i was too young when my parents divorced to really understand what was going on. i never stayed with them both, so i really never knew what it was like to have them both together. However, as i got older, i did wonder why my dad was not living in the same house as us. i guess it had some effect on me. im pretty sure if i had a father around teaching me about guys, and teaching me about life period, i wouldnt have made some of the bad choices i made. i rebelled a lot. my mother had to take care of 11 children by her self. my dad stayed in the same town as us, but he really didnt do much. i resented him at times. blamed him for the situation we were in at times. i remember one time he hit me with a belt after seeing me being walked home by my boyfriend. he followed us all the way from where we are, and whooped me in front of him. i was soo embarrassed and i really didnt understand what amde him think he had the right to do such. i remember telling him that if my mom doesnt hit me, then he shouldnt.
i am now a mother of 3, and i am no longer with the father of my first two. it does have an effect on them. my son mainly. i moved away from him while i was pregnant with our daughter, so she hasnt been around much. she knows him, but not as good as our son. they want to talk and visit him often, and it hurts having to tell them that they cant. he doesnt do any thing for them, but they love him just the same. they are too young to udnerstand. they dont know the situation. they just love their dad. i plan to explain to them once they are older,and i just hope that they are understanding. im quite sure they would want us to be together (my son has told him that before) but it wont be able to happen.
Kiara D
Really very interesting site...Thank you for sharing with us...
http://www.couponzatak.com/store/firstcry/
Firstcry Coupon
Post a Comment