Why do some people still deal with their ex's? (calling them, having sex with them, spending time with them). In what way is an ex an ex if you are still sleeping with him/her? How do you keep an ex from affecting your current relationship?
How do you get over an ex? Do you try to stay friends with your ex? If so, what goes along with that friendship?
Tavaruss Townsend (Noon)
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Me my self do not speek to them. I think that it is difficult to talk to an ex and bee friends because i had strong feelings for them and know were just suppose to be friends i can not do that. If an ex sees me and talks to me i will talk but not for too long. the texting thing i just do not respomnd i just delete unless it sounds like there introuble or somthing. And i deffinitly will not hang out with them because we all know what that will lead too, and if you truly want a ex to be a ex you do not become best friends with them that is my opinion.
Tyler Farmer
Exs can be big problems. It depends how the break up was if you can still be friends with them. If you guys were just testing things out to see how they worked and they didnt, you can still be friends. If you both had feelings for one another then most likley you wont be able to be friends, because most of the time they are hard break ups. Avoiding them is not always the answer. That can sometimes make things worse. You just need to face them and either end it or stay friends.
Scotty
Dealing with an ex can tend to be hard sometimes, but kind of all depends on how you broke up if it was at an agreement where you two realized you couldn't be together because of to much arguing you probably shouldn't try to be friends that will just cause too many problems. Me myself i still talk to a select few of my ex's. One of them we're still as close as we were when we were dating but just couldn't do it anymore because of us going to different colleges.
Kevin Hays
Some people don't want to forget their ex's and some people do depending on the reason for a break up. The two people may be broken up but it doesn't mean they don't have feelings for each other. They could still have feelings for each other and have sex but maybe they just don't want to be in a committed relationship.
It's hard getting over an ex. If you had strong feelings for your ex it may take longer to get over them.
From my experience, I know its difficult to be friends with an ex. The more your around that person the stronger your feelings for them may get. I am friends with my ex, who happened to be my first boyfriend and I see him a couple times a month. everytime I see him it brings back memories. I keep telling myself that we can never be together again since its been almost five years now and he has a different girlfriend ever week.
I'm not saying you can't be friends with an ex but it can be hard for someone.
Hillary Moore
I don't have anything to do with my ex wife at all unless it involves our children. If they call, it is never to say hello, it is always for a problem so I mostly screen her calls. When I went through my divorce it was avery nasty experience and when I see her name that just brings up bad memories so I try to avoid that. As far as getting over an ex, you need to move on with your life and live it the way you want to or if you dwelve on that past it can eat you alive from the inside.
Jesse Hill 8:00
Personally, I think that if you keep talking/having sex with them then you will never get over them. You have to totally shut them out of your life for awhile until you get to a point to where you can be friends with them and not want anything more.
Macy
I think staying friends with your ex is the worst thing you can do. I tried being friends with my Ex and that did not work out. We still hooked up and spent time with eachother and worst of all we had to see eachother and hear eachother talk about their "New" realtionship. Its best to just end things on good terms and then just give it a rest for awhile. I havent talked to my ex in over 6 months and I could honestly say that I have moved on and if I saw him again I could just be friends with him. I think that those people who think that they HAVE to be friends with their Ex's are dumb bc that never works out. Its not healthy to hurt yourself by keeping them in ur life if you are going to be with them.
Alex S. (8:00)
I think if your ex is still trying to contact you, you need to ignore it until you can only be friends with that person. If you are seeing a new person then depending on how long the relationship lasted and the things it consisted of I dont know that I would ever consider it to be right. You may be able to trust your new boyfriend/ girlfriend but think about if it was you in their shoes. Would you want him or her to be friends with their ex? You maybe able to trust them but could you trust the ex? What extreme would they try to take it to? Are they over the relationship? If you are single then I believe it is ok to have a friendship with an ex but if you are in a new relationship I don't believe it is right to have any contact with that person. After all you did break up for a reason.
Thysha
I guess you could say that my ex and I are friends now but we both went through a phase where we either hated each other or really wanted the other to spend the night. If you already have someone else in your life then you shouldn't be worried about your ex in the first place
Well dealing with an ex you can do many different things. Well first off if you are still tapping it, then did you really break up? If so she/he is only a booty call and should only be called only upon for sex. Yet if they are still trying to hang out with you outside of the bedroom, that is where the problem is I mean if your ex is only your booty call and you are tired of it, you can move on there is more out there. But if they are trying to have that old relationship back you probably need to stay away till one or the other finds a new partner. After finding another partner then you can be like everyday friends, that have a past. But all true friends have most likely a past with each other not sexually but where you have both disagreed on something. So avoid them till you have moved on or keep single and tap it on the side why you then can look for a new partner if that is what you are truly looking for.
Well dealing with an ex you can do many different things. Well first off if you are still tapping it, then did you really break up? If so she/he is only a booty call and should only be called only upon for sex. Yet if they are still trying to hang out with you outside of the bedroom, that is where the problem is I mean if your ex is only your booty call and you are tired of it, you can move on there is more out there. But if they are trying to have that old relationship back you probably need to stay away till one or the other finds a new partner. After finding another partner then you can be like everyday friends, that have a past. But all true friends have most likely a past with each other not sexually but where you have both disagreed on something. So avoid them till you have moved on or keep single and tap it on the side why you then can look for a new partner if that is what you are truly looking for.
Micah
For me, I think it is best to stay away from your ex. I guess it depends on the person. If it's best for you to get them completely out of your life, then I would say this option would work for you. If you are they type that stays friends with all of your ex's then this probably works best for you.
Many people get themselves in uncomfortable situations when staying involved with your ex. When you stay friends continuing to do things together like you did before your were a couple is when feelings get hurt. On one side or the other, unless you are both rare individuals that just want the companionship and can leave all feelings out of it.
If I were breaking up with my friend, I would be cordial when I seen them. But that would be as far as it would go. I think everyone needs that time away, when breaking up to get back to them.
Melissa (noon)
man i just had a problem with my ex today she texted my phone yesterday and said happy birthday and i said thanks and my signature had something on it about me and my other girl and she texted back and said who do you love and my girl seen it and they was arguing on the phone then they seen each other at school and was arguing its crazy though.
Demario Jordan
yeah I cant answer this question really cause I talk to my ex or exs, and I dont know why. It bothers me daily that I have not found someone that can make me forget all the others. So I believe im just keeping myself busy by talking with them because it deters me from thinking about how alone i am and actually dealing with it.
Jessica Ervin
For me it depends on how long we dated and how we get along. The guy I dated for 2 years I do not speak to. I absolutly can not stand him anymore. I tried being friends with him but he just got mad if I hung out with my guys friends even though he was hanging out with all these girls and I couldn't take it anymore. The easiest way to get over them is to honestly shut them out of your life completely. Yes it is going to be hard to do it with the ones you dated for so long. It was hard for me to get over that boy even though he was a complete dickhead. But on the other hand I am friends with at least two of my other exs. I still care for them but we were just ment to be friends and be there for each other and that's why it is so easy to stay friends and be able to hang out with them.
Falynn Clow
I recently learned the hard way that it is impossible to be friends with an ex. especially if you had a deep connection with them and they became an important part of your life. This happened to me and it was hard to shut him out of my life. we tried being friends but he was so inlove with me or obsessed..(couldnt really tell at one point)that he ended up turning his passionate love for me into passionate hate! sometimes people cant deal with the heartache and move on. sometimes they cant bear looking at that person because they always viewed them one way. So now we've completely shut each other out. I see him every day but we act like we just don't know each other.
i think alot of people still deal with there ex's becuase your never really over that person until your completly over that person. if you still have feelings for a person you dont really care what your doing you just want to do it with them and alot of it comes from control and you not wanting to see them with another male or female. and ex is olny a ex if youve moved on if you guys are still sleeping together then your just close friends in a werid ex kinda relationship with benefits. if your still feeling your ex your going to compare your ex to the person in your current relationship. gettting over an ex is never easy you will always remember the good times and moments you guys had together if any, if nun thats probably why he/she is you ex and you should already be over them,but in most cases you just move on as time goes. always try to avoid being freinds because it never really works that would only slow down the process of moving on, and if you are going to be friends its never going to be how you want it to be so its best to just let it go.
Martina Harvey(noon)
I do not know why some people still deal with their ex but I believe it is because they are not over that person. To me and ex is not and ex if you all are still having sexual relations. Everyone is different some people can just be friends with their ex and leave it at that, but if you can not do that then you need not be around your ex at all. Like I said before everyone is different so it depends on the person some people can get over their ex easily and others cannot. Somethings that I do to get over my ex is find things to do to keep my mind off of my ex and do not do a lot of things that you all did together. Myself in particular do not stay friends with my ex but if I see my ex somewere I do speak because it is a sign of maturity that you are showing if you cannot do that than to me I think that shows that you are not over that person. Some people do stay friends and with that its just a certain line that you do not cross you treat them how you would treat your other friends so if you do not sleep with your other friends then do not sleep with your ex.
Sierra (noon)
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