Can a long distance relationship work?
What do you think are the potential drawbacks of having a long-distace relationship? Are there any positives about them--are they in some ways better than relationships where you see the person every day, or several times a week? Do you know of any long-distance relationships tha have worked? Have you ever been in one yourself?
Curtina (8:00)
18 comments:
I'm in a long distance relationship myself, so far it is working. Although, it can be a struggle. Long distance relationships are hard to keep alive when you are never seeing your boyfriend or girlfriend. A lot of the time you don't feel like you are in a relationship at all, because you are never seeing your significant other. If both people become busy and involved in their own separate lives and schedules, it is hard to stay in touch. once you loose touch the relationship falls apart. But distance is not what determines if your relationship will make it or not. Love is not based on physical presence or interaction. If you really love each other, you make it work--it's as simple as that.
Spice
long ditance relationship are hard to keep going because if your use to seeing your boyfriend or girlfriend and then they move to a different state or go to college it can start some big problems in the relationship. I know a couple of relationship that didn't last because they went off to school and cheating on each other. I guess people start growing apart when there not around each other.
Tavaruss
I believe that a long distance relationship could work you just have to have trust and be committed to your partner. In a long distance relationship some drawbacks could be not being to be in each others presence whenever you want to and do things together. There could be some positives it could be a break from your spouse just to give you all some space. I do not know of any long distance relationships that have worked and I have never been in a long distance relationship.
Sierra (noon)
I dont see how a long distance relationship could ever work. A relationship consists of you and him or her seeing each other. A Relationship over the phone or internet would not work. There are some people that it would work but not for me.
Scotty
I am also currently in a long distance relationship. I hate it I mean it is working and I trust her but it is hard to trust when being so far away you have no clue what they are doing. It is hard to trust them when they have so many friends especially friends that are boys and you honestly have no friend where you live. It sucks, they can work but not very well you are use to seeing them everyday and now you can't. When you don't talk to them all the time it feels like you are single, and that feeling does temp you. You have to be truely dedicated and honest and true. Also it depends on how long you knew the person before it became a long distance relationship I mean if you only new the person a week before you moved, I give the relationship lastign .01 percent chance of working.
I've never had a long distance relationship, but I think they could work. If you are truely in love anything can work. If it is the one, your soul mate nothing should stop them! If not doesn't really matter.
Melissa (noon)
i think a long distance relationship is not so much a good idea because you would have to constantly worry about if someone is cheating on you or what secrets they may have so its not worth all the heartach and pain.
Demario Jordan
i beleive that it can work but it takes both people to completly and honestly trust each other, if they worry they need to disscuss it because that wil only make things harder. comunication is a hudge key for a long distince relationship to work. yes i do beleve that long distance realationships can work and as long as you get to spend some time with them eventually it will only make things more patinate because you dont know when you will get to see them again.
tyler farmer
When my wife and I first started dating I lived in Buckley and she lived in Clifton (about a 30 min drive) and only got to see one another one day each weekend, and it worked fine for a while. We did end up breaking up for a while because their was a guy who had shown interest in her and I got stupid and jealous. When we got back together things pretty much picked up where they left off. Then I joined the Navy and was sent to Charleston, SC. We worked with that for a while, but then she decided to give up everything and move down there with me. That was when I decided to marry her, and proposed. Obviously she said yes. Then the deployments came and she waited patiently while I was gone for months at a time with little to no contact (cell phones don't work on submarines). So, yes, they can work as long as their are mutual feelings of love and trust in the relationship.
Kevin Farnum
Yes it can. It can be very challenging and you would have to raelly trust a person to do it. As one student has stated he would be worrying about cheating nad if that thought enters your head at any time then you are in a relationship with the wrong person.
I think it can also be very positive. Think about the time apart, the time you spend thinking about the other, and the time you think about what you are going to do when you see each other. You are going to get it on with more passion than if you were together all the time.
I could also be very negative when you get back to being together all time time and start seeing all the little things all the time that you used to just pass off as nothing. These could build over time and.....BOOM.... I hate being with you all the time, then it's over!!!
Jesse Hill
I had an experience sort of like the one Jesse describes at the end of his response: once the woman was around all the time, we got to know each other better in REAL life rather than in the imaginary life we had created in our heads while she was overseas. In other words, this woman was easy to love from far away--over the phone and through romantic letters--but when it came to living with her every day she was way too controlling for me. I disappointed her a bunch, too, of course.
Maybe my point is that it's easier to romanticize a long-distance relationship than it is an in-the-trenches-together relationship. Sort of like when you lose someone (through death or a breakup), you forget all the stuff that was bad and focus on mainly the positive stuff. The same thing happens in a long-distance relationship: you miss the person so much you build her (or him) into someone she really is not, so she can only disappoint you when you finally get to have a close-distance relationship.
Jim Burke
In a long distance relationship to work both people in the relationship have to have a way of interacting with each other if it's by computer or by phone. It is tough in having to deal with the fact that your partner is far away and you can't talk face to face or even have a romantic dinner with him/her. Long distance relationships don't ever last long, but if you are one of those people who can make it work then go right ahead.
Jorge (8am)
I think it really depends on the people in the relationship. For instance I would not be good with a the long distance because I feel the need to know and be around the person I am seeing. But this girl I work with is dating a guy for the second time around and i think it is working because they already know eachother and have been through a tight knit relationship together already, so they are comfortable being apart.
Jessica Ervin
I have never been in a long distance relationship. I would find it vary hard for it to work for me. Say you might have known the person in high school and s/he was a very nice person, that might have changed. You might not think or believe that person would do something to hurt you because they say that they "love" you, but really are they following the "rules" of love? I am one who thinks about a lot of things and maybe sometimes worries to much, so I would have to say this wouldn't work for me. I would always have to may what if, or is s/he really being faithful. Do they love me the way they say?
Thysha
I have been in a long distance relationship and it did not work. My boyfriend moved to Las Vegas and we made it about a month before we broke up. I think that if you see each other everyday you are more than likely to get annoyed or tired of each other, but then again if you never see each other your heart will be in pain for not being able to see the one you love.
Macy Shupe
The way I see it is, if you use the excuse of not trusting or worrying in the failure of a long distance relationship then you probably should not be in a relationship with that person near or far because theres no trust! which is what relationships are built on. If you use the excuse of no physical presence and the heart ache of not seeing your loved one in the failure of a long distance relationship that is a complete contradiction. if you love someone you dont break up with them or leave them because they arent there to satisfy your physical needs and give you any type of attention..thats not love, thats being selfish. I think long distance is the perfect test to learn if you really love a person-- what you will do just to keep them in your life, even if it means through letters, txting, phone or email for a while.
Spice
lol long distance relationship can work but i do not see it working for a long period of time
Chadd Bailey noon
I can't really say whether a long distance relationship can work or not. Long distance relationships can work for a while but after a few months it can get hard. It can get hard because when you don't see that person you don't know if they could be cheating on you with someone else or if that person is even real. I think a long term relationship works better if the couple talks using a webcam rather than on the phone because you can see the person and it feels like that person is right there with you.
To me there is a good and a bad side to long term relationships. Me personally, I think being in relationship with someone when you can see them.
Hillary Moore
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