So many people today just causually date, and sometimes they stay together for a long time. How do you know if you're really meant to be with that person? Should you stay with your high school sweetheart as long as possible, or should you venture out and see what the world has to offer ?
In case you're a little lost what I'm asking is, is staying with one person for the rest of your life a good thing, or should you get to meet other people so you'll know that the one you're with is worth it?
Ashley Mitchell (9:00)
26 comments:
to me, if you're together for a long period of time, the both of you are obviously thinking the same way, that is they both want to 'stay together forever' and if they really wanted to go out & meet new people & see what else is out there, they would have ended it earlier in the relationship not wait till four years is up to do so. i just think that's kind of mean...i honestly think that if you're 'in love' & you just break it off to meet new people, you're not going to be able to bc the love you have for the other person is going to be in the way, you're going to keep thinking about that person...idunno, i've never really been in that situation, but i do think that staying with one person for the rest of your life is a good thing...it's not a bad thing at all. it shows you're dedicated, you're trustworthy, loyal, & happy together. why would you go out and meet new people just to see if it's worth it. it's like you're playing a game, and games get annoying.
kaitlyn taylor.
i think that you should follow what you feel is right. if you think your high school sweet heart is exactly what you want then thats fantastic. but the fact is that there are TONS of guys/girls out there and if the one you have isnt exactly what you want and need then move on. people need to date around and see what all is out there but at the same time shouldnt pass up a good thing. dont let being single get in the way of finding someone important.
-matt
I think that after you've been with someone for a long time you start to know whether or not that person is right for you. I think this because i'm pretty sure if you're thinking that someone isn't right for you, you break up with that person. You don't stay with that person. Some people causually date to see what all is out there and they don't want to just find some guy and be like oh! you're the one. no. I think it takes time. I don't think you should stay with your highschool sweetheart as long as you can, but if you really like that person and is still going great,why break up? Many people tell other people "there's other fish in the sea" well, to some they don't want any other fish. They may not want better because to that person, they are the better to them. It all depends on the person and what they want and are looking for.
I think that after you've been with someone for a long time you start to know whether or not that person is right for you. I think this because i'm pretty sure if you're thinking that someone isn't right for you, you break up with that person. You don't stay with that person. Some people causually date to see what all is out there and they don't want to just find some guy and be like oh! you're the one. no. I think it takes time. I don't think you should stay with your highschool sweetheart as long as you can, but if you really like that person and is still going great,why break up? Many people tell other people "there's other fish in the sea" well, to some they don't want any other fish. They may not want better because to that person, they are the better to them. It all depends on the person and what they want and are looking for.
kiara taylor(9:00)
sometimes staying with one person can cause you to have resentment on that person because you didnt give yourself that chance to go out and look at your options. Always keep your mind open to what you think you want in your life for the rest of your life. When you find that one person that you will spend the rest of your life with you will know in your heart that you should be with this person forever. Things do happen and people can become opposite from each other down the road. To say that you should stay with one person for the rest of your life is kind of not reality. Not everyone can stay together forever like our grandparents have done.
Jodi
I personally don't know because I haven't ever dated. But in my opinion it would depend on the person. If you know deep down that the person you are dating is the one for you than there is no point in looking any further. there is someone for everyone out there. If you wanted to look around and the person you were dating is the one for you, then you could loose him/her. I think that in matters of the heart you should listen to the heart and not your head. If you think about it to much your head will convince you of something that isn't right.
Justine Miller
I think people should date a few people before they settle down with one person. It takes a long time to find that perfect person and you won't know who it is unless you date around and see what qualities you really like in a person. Two of my mom's friends married their high school sweethearts and they ended up getting a divorce for a stupid reason, because they wanted to experience something new. They had spent most of their life with one person and didn't get to experience being with other people. So I don't think that people should stay with their high school sweethearts, I mean unless they are really in love and have a wonderful relationship. I think people should date around unless they find someone that they just connect with completely.
Jessica(10:00)
I am 30 and have never been married. I want to one day, but I want to make sure I find the right person for me, because when I get married it is forever. I don't want to go through divorse, my vows when I get married are as they say "my word is my bond". I dated people, but have come to realize just recently that the man I am with now is the one for me. My heart and soul tell me so. We have been together for 3 years, and during those 3 years we decided to date other people to see if we really wanted to be together and came to find out that yes we did. We are going to get married, but we are taking it slow and still getting to know one another day in and day out until that day comes.
I think if you and the one you are with are together for a long time something is obviously right. How can you be guaranteed to find that again? Why would you throw something you think is so amazing if you might not find it with someone else? If you are willing to look for someone else you obviously aren't as in love as you think. I guess I can't really be impartial to this because I have been with my boyfriend since I was a freshman in high school, we have been together for four years and I have no regrets not dating in high school. I don't want to lose what I have because I know I couldn't find anyone better. Not saying everyone should stay with one person forever but it's working for me so far.
Kaylan
I have been married a long time, 33 years on Friday. It sounds like a really long time but when your with the right person it doesn't seem that long at all. There are always going to be bumps along the way and sometimes those bumps are mountains. The trick is to grow as a couple even in the face of that mountain. I do beleive that you should date many different people when you are in high school. It takes time to find the right fit. It is my experience that a very small percentage of the couples that got married right out of high school are still together. Another key to a long lasting relationship is communication. I mean really listening to your partner. There is nothing more disrespectful than not paying attention to a conversation. (Obviously this is a pet peeve of mine.) It is comfort to come home at the end of the day and know that you are loved and safe from the crazy hectic world we live in. And to answer your question, is it worth it, Yes it is.
Lois (10:00)
If you are really meant to be with someone, it should feel different from ALL of the rest. It's someone you can be yourself around, tell everything too, and them knowing makes them love you more. I don't know to many people that have stayed together since highschool. If it's meant to be it will happen. I've been with my boyfriend since the 2nd half of senior year and we haven't had any problems at all. I don't see any point in venturing out. But if you do, then the person you are with isn't the one for you. I think staying with one person is a great thing. Me and my boyfriend are like best friends. I cant tell him everything. That's a good relationship. True love lasts, but if it's not true then say goodbye. You should already know that the person you are with is worth it. If you don't then they aren't. It's as simple as that.
-- Heather Alber
I have been with my girlfriend for almost three years now and I couldnt be happier. If you find something you like and enjoy being with them you should stick with it. That's why Im still with my girlfriend. I enjoy spending time with her and havent got sick of her yet. There are a lot of people out there I could be with but i have choosen not to, because I'm afraid I wont find anyone else like her.
Nolan
I think that you will know in your heart if you should stay with someone or not. If you and that person are getting a long good and feel you should stay together when that is what you should do. If you feel that you are growing apart from that person then you shouldn't stay in the relationship. When people are in high school their relationship may feel right, but once they get out in the world their feeling may change and it looks like they are going in different directions. You shouldn't stay with someone just because you have been with that person a long time. In the end the relationship will just turn out ending any way.
Anita Freeman
I believe that if you are one of the lucky people to find someone that you are truely in love with and they feel the same way about you, then you should stay with that person cause you might never be so lucky to find someone like that again. Some people go their whole lives wihout finding someone they can share their life with and yet some people find that person and they don't realize it and end of leaving them or misstreating them until they they get left behind.
I think you should try diffrent mates first. How would you know if someone is the one for you, if you have not went out with other people. Having one soulmate is great but i just think you should have fun first and test the waters to make sure thats the right man or woman for you.Being with one person for a long time you should be thinking of marriage and kids. If it's real love that person will come back. High school sweetheart no way you should stay with that ine person you only no them you could be missing out on something great. Kasha Topps
It really just depends on the person. If your not happy with the person you have been with for years then break it off go meet someone new people. Don't stay with them because you have been with them for a long time. Just because you go meet new people doesn't mean you have to get involved with them and maybe you will realize how much that last person you ment to you. But if your happy and content why would you change it and risk getting hurt and loosing that person.
Lindsey
I think it would be go to get out there and see whatever one has to offer but if you have been in a relationship for a long time and things have been going well stick with it. Why change if nothing went wrong. There is nothing wrong with staying with the highschool sweetheart if that's want you want, but if you want to get out there while in college do that. I think what it all boils down to whatever make you happy in the long run is what you should do.
K.J. Picard
I tell my girlfreind all the time that I wouldn't want to eat the same thing for lunch every day for the rest of my life, so why would I want to have the same girl every day for the rest of my life? You need variety in life or else you get bored and start hating the person you fee trapped with. Think how much you would hate ham sandwiches if you had to have them every day.
Also, how come we are allowed to have as many friends as we want but we can have only one girlfriend at a time? Something wrong about that?
Lucas Brown (10:00)
During my freshman year I was one of those "casual daters" I went out with guys and never really connected with any of them. I mean there were qualities that I loved about each of them but none of them had it all. Then I started to date my boyfriend Chad and he had all the qualities in a boyfriend that I could want. I have been with him four years now. I don't want to date others because he makes me so happy and I am so secure with him. I don't need to look because we are on the same track with one another and have life goals. I have dated others and didn't like going from one person to the next. I think staying with one another for life sounds good as long as both people want the same things out of life. I guess I am just lucky I found him and that I am happy.
Becky Gryczewski
Marriage is a blessing, but it can sometimes feel like a curse. You can love someone but can you imagine making the decision to go from solo to a partnership where you have to remember that you are now a member of a team and it is no longer just about you. If you really want to know if the person you are dating might be the one, picture yourself in a terrible situation, such as the loss of a parent or child, can you see that person carrying you through the darkest hours of your life? Can you imagine them being there for you always? If not, you've got your answer. Its okay to decide not to settle and to go find your soul mate.
Amy (10a.m.)
I think that it doesn't matter if you're with one person your whole life, or if you've been with 50 people in your lifetime. I think that you know what is right for you, following what you feel in your heart. Between that and allowing God to guide you, you can never go wrong.
Lance
I think that if you truly love somebody and want to be with them for the rest of your life then you should be with them. But, you need to know for sure even if you are high school sweethearts. Cause in high school people date for long periods of time and think that they will be together forever then when they go off to college and start meeting new people then they end up breaking up. I think it is a good tip if you are dating someone that you were dating in high school then you should wait and see how things go when you are in college. If you are still together after college and you still think the same way, then go for it.
Jake Oltean 10:00
You should do what you think is right. If you and your high school sweet heart both think that you are right for each other then you should go for it. If you think that maybe it won't work aftre being with them for a long time then you should maybe think about dating other guys/girls.
Jessica Brooks
staying with a person for the rest of your life is a good thing because that shows how much you love and care for that person and you will know just about everying they have ever done in thier life because chances are you were thier to have done it with them.
65 mustang
If you have the connection go for it. There is no predicting the future so why not? It is good to venture out and explore oppertunities, but if you really love your high school sweetheart go for. There is always someone out there for everyone. It may take a long time but that someone will come.
--Jeremy Harding
Post a Comment