Why do you think people roam outside their relationship for sex or companionship with someone else? Sometimes even when a person claims to be in love with a spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend, he or she still can't stay faithful. Why is that?
Do you think cheating is sufficient cause for divorce? Do you think most couples can work things out after one of them has cheated? How could the cheater regain trust?
Have you ever been cheated on in a relationship? Why did it happen? What was your experience, and what did you learn from it?
Thank you for your help!
LesLee Watkins (7:00)
33 comments:
People go outside of the relationship because they are missing something, or they don't know how to deal with problems with their spouse or partner.
Cheating is not a sufficient cause for divorce if it only happens once. The trust issue will always be there until they can get passed it and find out why that person cheated. If the person has been cheating on the other for a length of time, then yes, something is wrong and I don't know if they will be able to get passed it.
Michelle
I think people roam outside of their relationship because they aren't satisfied. The issue of being satisfied could be because of the relationship they are in, or it could be a lot deeper and have nothing to do with their relationship. I think there should always be another chance given. It would be a risk, but it could totally work. If they have been cheating for a long length of time then I think it would be very hard to regain trust. If it was just a kiss, it would be a lot easier to forgive and move on. All of it depends on the couple and their relationship. The one who cheats would have to make some serious changes if he/she wanted to be trusted again. They would have to work for it everyday and really mean it. I don't know specific ways that they could regain trust, it's pretty much everything they do and never messing that up again.
Hannah Dodd (9:00)
People always want more, and for some it's hard to maintain a relationship. A strong, healthy relationship requires a lot of work, commitment, and faithfulness. I think cheating is completely ridiculous, especially if two people are married! I think a relationship revolves around trust, and cheating is total betrayl to the other person. I definitely don't hand out second chances to cheaters. It's the worst thing that someone could do to tear a relationship apart. I think cheating is a sufficient cause for divorce. Cheating breaks the circle of trust within a relationship, and I think it would be nearly impossible to gain it back. I am totally against cheating, and I don't understand why people think it's okay to be unfaithful to someone they love. Chelse Lindenbaum (9:00)
People roam outside of their relationship because they are bored with what they have. What they have isnt good enough for them or they are looking for something different. Sometimes they do it because they know they can get away with it. They know that they will always come running back to them. I think that when someone says that they are in love with their boyfriend/girlfriend and then they go out and cheat on them, they really are not in love with them. They are just saying that so the other person feels as if they are in love. They say it because they know the other person will come running back to them no matter what they do. Cheating should be one of the main reasons a married couple gets a divorce. Cheating while you are married is breaking your vows you made to one another. If things are really meant to be then most couples should be able to work through one of the partners cheating on them. It would be extremely hard for the cheater to gain back the respect of their partner. It would take a long long time to gain that back. I'm not really sure how the cheater would be able to gain back the trust. Never lie or do anything that would make the partner think you cheated on them could be a few ways to earn trust. I have never been cheated on before and that makes me feel really good. It makes me feel like I have picked all the right girls who respect me enough not to cheat on me. If I had been cheated on then it would be hard for me to trust any girl that I dated from the point on.
Kirby Reifsteck (9:00)
No matter if it sex or a kiss, it is still cheating. No matter what kind of cheating it is, the pain is still the same. Personally, I don't know what it is like to be cheated on because I have never been in a relationship, but if the time comes I am sure I will have an extremely hard time trusting that person again. No matter if it is just an innocent kiss or sex, the person should not only have self-control to overcome those sticky situations, but that person must not trully care about the person they are cheating on; otherwise, there is no way they could ever put that person through so much pain. Timothy Swan
People cheat for 2 reasons: they are a slut or one/both parties have not been completely truthful with eachother, either about the relationship, past history, or what they really want in a partner.
Yes, cheating is cause for a divorce, I wouldn't stay with someone that betrayed me. No, they can't work it out because there will always be a sense of mistrust.
I have never been cheated on, but I have had quite a few people in my life that have or did the cheating. From observing them I would say that if a person cheats once, then they will cheat again and again.
Daniel Hooker (7:00)
People roam outside of their relationship because they just want to get away from everything. They aren't happy with their lives and think this will help for some reason. Some people just can't stay faithful and I don't understand that. They aren't happy with what they have and want to make themselves happier. Cheating is defintiely a sufficient cause for divorce. I think it would be very difficult to work things out in an unfaithful marriage, but it is possible. They probably couldn't regain the trust and that is why most of them would end in the divorce. I have never been cheated on.
Ryan Lowry(7:00)
People roam outside their relationsip for sex or companisonship is because maybe temptations. I strongly beleive that it is temptation and that men and women are horny as hell too.I cant tell you why people cheat or what is going on in their head more or less. People are not perfect and make mistakes in life. Yes cheation has a relation with divcorces but not a sufficient. I think people are to easy to run away from their problems. I think it completely depends on how much they want to work out the problem and how much they are willing to keep this person that they love or so called love in their life. I do not know how they can ever get trust back i know that i would have a hard time trusting again. Yes i have been cheated on. I have no idea why it happened. I learned do not fall to quick and let it go slow.
Shawn harsbarger
I guess people go outside their relationship because they are missing something in their relationship. They may be missing sex, companionship, love, or something that is not quite so easy to pick out. Love is not a "fix-all" for a relationship and just because two people are in love with each other it doesn't mean they can live togeather and make each other happy. I have seen a few people workthings out for a while after one of them has cheated, but for the most part, trust is never regained and they may as well have called it quits from the start. No, I have never been cheated on in a relationship.
Steve Kidd (07:00)
I think the only reason that some people go looking for more then what they get in their relationship, is the feeling that they need more. I dont know why some people cant stay faithful, maybe they are afraid of being committed to just one person, afraid of being tied down...so they are looking for a way out of the relationship. I dont think that couples should stay together if they are obviously having enough problems, to where one of them have to go looking for something to fill that void...so yes i think that it is a good excuse for divorce. I think that some couples can work problems out, but definitely not all couples can do this. I dont think that a cheater can ever regain their partners full trust, and i dont think you should ever fully trust someone that has cheated in the past. no i have never been cheated on.
7:00 Cameron Brown
I think there a few reasons why people go outside there relationships for sex and companioinship. Some people are greedy and want to be ablt to have the choice of having sex with other partners even though there engaged in an relationship. And i believe the others are missing something in there relationship. Maybe the communication is not connecting or the sex is not all that plaesing to one of the partners. I have a friend he says that he loves his girlfriend to death but he ala cheats on his girlfriend. He claims he doesn't know why he just gets caught up in the moment with other girls and he takes advantage. I believe cheating is a cause for divorce. If i can't trust you then why should we stay married. One time is enough, if some cheats on me while were married then we have to divorce. That's the point of getting married, your making a full committment to your partner that you will we faithful to them for eternity. I have never been cheatd on because i don't have relationships like that. I have friends that are girls and thats as far as it goes.
Demaris winston(7:00)
I think that people that go outside of their relationships to do things with other people do that because their is something that they want that their partners dont give them, or they are just curiouse and want to try new things. Either way i dont feel that it is right in any way. I have been cheated on and it was blamed on being drunk but i dont believe that. I think a persons true feelings come out when they are drunk so i didnt believe it and yes i believe it should lead to ending the relationship. Trust is very important and if your partner it cheating on you then you dont have trust in them.
Jimmy Gourdier (12:00 Class)
Bored I guess. I have been cheated on and it is no fun,I dont understand why people(not just men) decide that it is ok to cheat if you are unhappy with your relationship. IT IS NEVER OK. Often times a person goes into a relationship with love in their heart, but departs with hate, but only if they let it happen that way. Why not catch the relationship when it starts to go bad before it gets worse. I think that it is almost impossible to work things out once one has cheated because the person that has been cheated on never forgets, and will probably bring up the situation every chance they get. From personal experience I could never forgive someone that cheated on me, whether it be a kiss or more. Cheating is a violation of trust, that a person does not just forgive no matter what they say, you can try; Lord knows I did, but you eventually look at yourself and think what did I do wrong, or why couldnt I just get in a car wreck because at least that would be over quick.
Kassi
I think cheating has to do with the quality of the relationship. Relationships are complicated. Eventhough it may seem good on the surface, there may be internal problems, which is why people act out from time to time in different ways, a common way being cheating. In my opinion, some ways to prevent cheating are: First of all, being cautious when choosing partners, and always being open emotionally. I think communication is really important. If someone isn't feeling good about their relationship, they need to let their partner know.
Tristan Cogswell
Cheating is a nasty situation to have to deal with. After a person has put so much time and effort into another loved one it is wrong to do things behind their back. I beleive some cheating occurs because of alcohol and drugs and people can not make a smart decision when they are intoxicated at a party and are not thinking correctly. Sometimes i beleive people cheat to lessen the pain of fiding out their partner may have been cheating on them. For instance if you found out your partner had been cheating on you it would not hurt as bad if you had been cheating on them as well. Now that i am a little bit older i do beleive that people should gain the courage to stand up and say they do not want to get in a relationship if they are going to cheat. To play with someone's emotions who cares about you is extremely selfish and dishonest. People need to be more upfront about how they feel so that issues can be resolved quickly, rather then resorting to all the sneaky techniques of cheating. If you dont like someone anymore quit using them and let them go on and be happy. Dont waste their time.
Blake Eakes Noon
I think that sometimes being dissatified is a factor in cheating. But most times I think people cheat to see if they can get away with it. I think people who cheat think they are smarter than other people and that they are entitled to do as they please. So they do. I think cheating is the ultimate slap in the face to your partner. Plus, it's a good way to spred disease.
I think people cheat for a number of reasons. If people are in a strong relationship they shouldn't have to cheat. They should have the audacity to say no. If people have a strong relationship, they shouldn't even have to weigh the options. Cheating is a cause for divorce, and i don't think that relationships will work after a partner has cheated on another partner. There will always be trust issues, and you have to trust your partner to have a healthy relationship. I have never been cheated on.
Zach Burnett
I think that people roam outside their relationship for a bunch of different reasons. I believe that one of the main reasons is because they are un-happy or possibly bored. They may be in-love and extremely comfortable with the person, however they may not be completely satisfied. I think that cheating is definitely a sufficient cause for a divorce. When you make your wedding vows, you are vowing to be faithful to the person in front of you, and if you don't plan on it, then don't get married. Some couples might be able to work things out through couples counseling.
Brittney (7:00)
Cheating, is one of the most selfish things a person can do. You claim to have found your soul mate but then you start to have urges. Wondering if there really is anything better than the current love of your life out there. And there is the real question. Is there anything better out there? Cheating happens when the other person either decides that there is a big possibility or that they aren't happy and too scared to say anything. Some are just looking for the thrill and others are just trying to find themselves. In the end cheating always leaves you with a bad taste in your mouth. Trusting becomes harder and so does communicating with your next partner after someone has cheated on you. Although the initial deed isn't the main cause for divorce it does lead to marital problems which tend to escalate over time. In my eyes cheating on your spouse is breaking your vows. And after breaking something that was supposed to be sacred, how can people expect to be taken back and forgiven? How? I also believe that the value of a relationship has declined significantly. Now a days the unspoken terms and rules of a relationship have become so loose that just about anybody can break the ties and not feel guilty. What the heck is that all about? No trust, no communication, no loyalty. It almost makes you wonder if dating is even worth all of the trouble. Maybe everyone should go on match.com to find their soul mate and let a computer tell who they're truly compatible with.
Miranda Wilson (9:00)
I think that many of the reasons that people go outside of their own relationship to find companionship is for the simple fact that they think they are not getting enough attention from their significant other. I think that a person can sometimes not stay faithful even to a person they love because the feel like they cannot give them enough.
I think that cheating is sufficient cause for divorce because when you say love, honor, and cherish....it means that you must love, honor, and cherish only that person. I think that a relationship will never be the same after a cheating incident occoured. In my case the cheater could never fully regain trust because the other spouse would always be suspicious. I have never been cheated on in a relationship and hope to never have to experience that in my life.
Frankie Gaskill (9:00)
I think they cheat because they're not happy with the other person. They could be tired of the relationship, but doesn't want to hurt the other poerson. Sometimes they could just waqnt to have sex outside the relationship. That could be because they might care for that person, but i don't think it's love, that's why they can't be faithful. Yes,. it's a good reason to divorce, because if you can't trust your spouse than you have nothing in the relationship. A relationship is built off of trust. Some couples can work things out after one has cheated once, but if the cheating continues than divorce should be discussed. The cheater can regain trust by doing whatever needs to be done to prove that they are going to be faithful. Yes, i've been cheated on before and i ended the relationship, because I felt like he didn't love me. He cheated on me so he didn't care for me or about me. I learned to let love come come as natural as possible, and don't try to make somebody love you.
Tiffany Fields
I think that cheating is so wrong. I don't know why people feel the need to cheat. I hope that no one ever cheats on me because that is such a hurtful thing. And if someone feels the need to cheat, they're going to do it again, more than liekly. I don't really believe that people that cheat and understand what love really is. And men that cheat, aren't truely men, that's what I believe!
--Jill Reinhart (noon)
I'm sure there are many reasons people go outside their relationship. Some more shallow then others. I believe there are always circumstances to the decision for cheating being sufficient enough for a divorce. If my husband ever slept with another woman I would most likely leave him. It has to be hard to always remember the person they cheated with every time you get at all intimate after that.
Bobbi (9:00)
To begin with, I will proudly say that I have never been cheated on and have never cheated myself. Really, I think there could be loads of reasons that would make someone cheat on their significant other. Maybe they aren't satisfied, maybe they're trashed and don't even know where they are, or maybe they just miss the feeling of being able to flirt with a member of the opposite sex--who really knows. But, no matter the case, I think even the littlest thing counts as cheating. When you get into a relationship, you build a trust with that other person. Theres nothing worse than breaking that trust.
Alyssa Surber (9:00)
Sometimes that person just doesn't know what they want in life. They are not ready for a mature relationship. Being faithful and totally devoted is a huge commitment and it sometimes can scare people. Cheating is most definetly a sufficient cause for divorce. I believe that if the two people in the relatioship work hard enough, they may be able to overcome the cheating. But, the trust in the relationship will be hurt. The cheater would never be able to get the same amount of trust from the other person after cheating on them. They may be able to gain some of it back, but it could never be the same. I have never been cheated on and I will not allow it to happen.
Haley Stewart (7:00)
People don't know how to deal with their problems so they go outside of their relationship to find answers. If it happens once or even twice it can be worked out....it may take some time to earn the trust back but it can be done. I myself have been cheated on very recently.....actually I found out about it two days ago. We are working it out slowly and he is slowly gaining my trust back. We're friends as of right now and we are giving it time to heal.
Brianna Bugbee
I don’t understand why people cheat. Why lead someone to believe that they are the only one if it‘s just a lie? Why don’t cheaters just end their relationship if their partner isn’t enough for them? People wouldn’t cheat if they truly did love their partner. If you claim to love someone and you cheat anyway, you don’t know what love is. I believe that marriage vows should be taken seriously and couples should exhaust every option before getting divorced. I also believe that if you allow someone to cheat on you than they are going to continue to do so. Many relationships fail after someone cheats because all trust is destroyed. I have been cheated on. It happened because we were just kids. It seems pretty common to get cheated on when you’re young, but there is no excuse for it if you claim to be committed enough to get married.
Jennifer Wilson
Personally I think cheating is wrong no matter if you are a woman or a man. If in a relationship there are problems that are so bad that you have to go outside of the relationship to find sex, love or companionship, you should really just get out of the relationship if you are not happy. Don't cheat on your partner and think that it will make your problems get better because it won't. I think that before something to this extreme happens you should try to talk to your partner and see if things can be worked out. Is there a misunderstanding? This should happen first before people cheat on each other.
Jessica Byard (7am)
i have no idea why people roam outside of their relationship. i do believe that cheating is grounds for divorce, but if they havent cheated on each other then i do believe that it is possible to work things out.
Thomas wood
Cheating is cruel!
I'm sure there are many reasons why a person strays from there relationship. One, they could be bored with that person or they are no longer sexual attracted to them. There partner many have cheated on them and they're just getting them back. Or perhaps they were lonely and drunk and it just happened. What ever the excuse maybe in my eye is just wrong!!
I don't think that that is a significant reason for getting a divorced. However, I think the couple should go to marriage couseling and try to work on their relationship. Atleast make some sort of effort to strengthen the relationship and trust.
I have been cheated on once and it hurt like hell. He was looking for a new job in Florida while I was waiting here and being faithful. He deicided that he was so lonely after only being gone for a month to cheat on me with some hooker. He said he didn't mean anything and he used a rubber. It took him a whole year before he had the nerve to tell me this. We had been together for 12 years and this is the thanks I get for being a devoted women. I just lost all respect for him after that. I tried to make it work but I just couldn't.
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chuck norris (1:00 class)
I think people cheat because they can get away with it and they dont feel like something is there in there relationship. None of them are excuses but people still use them. I think people cheat because they feel there partner isnt really being faithful so they go ahead and say forget it they will cheat too. There a lot of reasons people cheat it just depends on the person and how there realationship is going.
Justin Peacock 1:00
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