Wednesday, April 05, 2006
Hi, I am David Floyd from John’s morning 101 class. I’m doing my survey on marriages in this country and my question to you is: What do you think the problem is with marriages in the United States? Why do so many of them end in divorce? Are you a child of two divorced parents. How has that effected you, and what do you think about things such as arranged marriages?
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I believe the biggest problem is alot of people marry for the wrong reasons. They get married because they think they are in love or for financial status. Alot of marriages end because of abuse, infidelity, and because they realize they really don't love one another. I know that some cultures do have arrange marriages and they learn to love each other. I wonder though how would it feel to marry and then live with someone you have never loved. You are expected to give your body to them and dedicate yourself to them, but you don't love that person. I know an indian couple that had an arrange marriage and they said they are going to let their children choose who they marry. Because they said it was years before they grew to really love eachother.
Shannon Black
I think a lot of people get married to young because of an unplanned pregnancy or it is away to get out of their parents house. People have to work at making a marriage work. The couple will have to be able to give and take and you have to honestly love the other person to be able to do that and not start resenting them. I think it is to easy to get a divorce today. When the couple starts having problems instead of trying to work the problems out they take the easy way out by getting a divorce. My parents have been married for forty-seven years and are still very happy. I was happily married for twenty-four years before my husband passed away. I don't think arranged marriages are a good idea. How can someone else choose the one you have to live with the rest of your life.
WeTona Houtzel
I think the problem with marriage in the united states is that people are getting married way to young. I dont think a lot of them really sit back an dthink upon it. Like do they really know the other person? Or what are the consequences of being married. No i am not a child of divorced parents so i think it gives me confidence in knowing that marriages can last. I dont believe in arranged marriages because how can you love someone and be with someone for the rest of your life that you dont even know? Leah Perdue
From PHIL GOULD--
I think that marriages now are occuring for the wrong reasons: money, looks, sex, etc.--None of these are strong foundations for a lasting relationship!
More and more people lose sight of who else was present at their wedding: GOD! Marriage, i believe, is a God-ordained institution! Your vows are essentially lies if you cheat on your spouse, get a divorce, etc.
I hope this is enough to work with.
PHIL GOULD
I think the reasons that most marriage wind up in divorce, is because you took the other person for granted. Some marriges in in divorce because women marry for financial reasons instead of love of that person. And after awhile the marrige goes sour. In the US we have it bad using one another like we do. Kids wind up getting hurt in the end. Two seperate parents or remarriad parents by other people. It not a problem that will go away in 2006, even when I am dead a gone it still will exist years from now thats the way we are. Daryl Brown
I think the problem with marriages in the United States is that people do not make a long term commitment. Our country accepts divorce and makes it easy to get one, thus people don't work at their marriage. I think the values and morals of a large amount of Americans has dramatically dropped. My parents are not divorced. I can remember a couple of times when I was growing up that I heard them talking about separating and I could feel the tension for awhile, but they stuck together. I strongly disagree with arranged marriages. Life is too short to not live life in the fullest and I feel arranged marriages can last, but they are not each others soul partner.
Robbin Russell
David if you go to Daryl's question and see his comments mine would have to be the same for you. My parents were high school sweethearts and have been married for Twenty-five years so when I get married it will be forever.
Natasha
I think the main problem with marriages today is that couples don't put enough emphasis on them. They go into the marriage thinking that if it doesn't work out that they can get an annulment or divorce and move on with their lives. Our lives are ran at such a busy pace now days that it is hard to spend quality time with our spouses and family. We spend more time with the people we work with than we do our own families. This in turn tends make us closer in a way to our co-workers than our spouse. I am not a product of divorced parents so it is hard to really know how this affects children other than what I have observed of them being used as pawns in the parents lives. I don't really believe in arranged marriages.
Nancy Byard
I think that couples are getting married too young, and that is why they are getting divorced. They are also getting married for the wrong reasons such as unplanned pregnancies, thinking they are actually in love, or financial reasons. Most couples think they would be better off financially to be married, but often times it is much harder. My parents have been married for 26 years and it sets a good example for me. No one really wants a divorce, but statistics say that if your parents get divorced that you are more likely to get divorced as well. I don't think arranged marriages are fair because when I get married, I want it to be to the person I want to spend the rest of my life with. Not to the person who someone else wants me to. I don't think I could ever be happy knowing I have to be married to someone I didn't want to. It already takes people a long time to really get to know and to love someone. Whenever it is arranged, you could find out that you really can't stand that person, and it would be a terrible situation having to be with them forever.
Elizabeth Moody
I think the biggest problem is couples getting married to young. It's so easy to married and even easier to get a divorce. Some get married cause they can: If there was harder laws to get divorced I don't think so many would jump to do it so quickly.
Tamika Newbern
No gay marriages should be illegal and stay illegal forever. there arent many states that it is legal in i think just massachusets, but i do know that certain counties, countries, and citys have legalized it. I dont think that certain states should ahve it and other dont, they should all be the same in the u.s. and it should be illegal. It also says in the bible that it is wrong.....if you need some more comments view mine b/c im covering the same topic.....good luck
britt miller
I think one of the major problems with marriages is that a lot of people romanticise it too much. They have an idea of what love is and when they find something with the slightest resemblance, they get hitched. A marriage isn't only about love, it's about being able to live and work together. A couple also has to talk about their problems. Those who don't generally have marriages that end in divorce.
Teresa Osterbur
I think that many people go into marraige with the thought that if it doesn't work they can just move on to the next person, but they forget about the vows they make before GOD, "for better or worst, in sickness and health, till death do us part" etc. Since we know we make vows in marraige we need to take our time, get to know a person inside and out, communicate thoroughly while dating, learn about a person's background, his or her parents caracter etc. I am not a child of divorced parents, therefore i seriously believe in doing your utmost to make a marraige work as far as it depends upon you. If both mates have this in mind then they will make the marraige work despite problems that plagues all marraiges.
Beverly Burnside
I think that a lot of couples rush into marriage, for whatever reasons. I dont think having a child or wanting to get away from your parents is a good reason to get married. You really need to love this person and not only love them but know that you can make it work. If you have any doubts about the marriage, dont do it. Getting a divorce in my opinion is a very serious thing and shouldnt be rushed into or looked at as a quick way out. You should try to work it out as much as possible. This is most important when you have children together. My parents are still together, but they went through some rough times when they were taking a break for awhile and it put me and my siblings through some termoul.
Jeff Still
I think the problem is people don't have the same values that they had years ago.A lot of people rush into it and then are shocked to find out what they got themself into.My Mom and Dad were never married so that was all I knew.
jamell b
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