Shantel (NOON)
Monday, April 09, 2012
BAD PARENTING
Shantel (NOON)
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What's the difference between good parenting and bad parenting? Do you think parents are still the same as the parents from back in the day? What are some similarities what are some differences? How have things changed in parenthood? What could be done to stop bad parenting?
Shantel (NOON)
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Shantel (NOON)
16 comments:
The difference is how you raise your children. A good parent is gonna make sure that their child is well taking care of and out of harms way. A bad parent don't really care one way or the other. Parents are most definitely not the way the use to be when I was growing up. Back then you did what you were told, now days these kids are running their parents, killing them and everything. Back in the day there were less single parents, kids had both their mother and father, unlike now, whereas the single parent rate has risen. We as parents need to raise our babies with better values, and teach them right from wrong. Stop letting them control us and take back the control. Also the government need to draw back a bit.They've made it harder to raise our children, I understand why, but these kids have taking the law and made it benefit them. As for what can be done, I feel it's to late for that. They already have parenting classes, but that doesn't seem like it's working. I really don't know what we can don about bad parenting, that we already haven't done. Latonya
A good parent will do everything in their power to provide their child the most nurturing and stimulatory environment possible. This means reading to them when they are children, taking them to sports events, and punishing them when they have done something wrong. Education is the most powerful tool out there and it should be utilized to its fullest potential.
I believe that ‘back in the day’ parents were better purely because there was more time available for parenting. People didn’t live the 100mph lifestyles that we do today, and as such there was more of a focus on parenting. I feel if parents put the time and effort into doing all that they can for their child, bad parenting would cease to exist.
Zach Daniels
Well i say one of those pictures is pretty explicit as to a bad parent. I think people are lazy these days. People would rather let their televisions, or DVD raise there children, know some of those. No parents are not the same, my parents would not have put up with me doing some of the things kids get away with. We were taught to respect are elders, teachers, and each other.. I think people need to go back to the basics. Be a parent, spend time with your children, have dinner, help with homework, try to be there. I know its hard when two people have to work to survive, maybe just start with the basics, dinner at least once or twice a week, just to stay in touch.
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Good Parent Says: “Oops. How can I do it better?”
Bad Parent Says: “I blame…the teachers, food allergies, his friends, my ex, not breastfeeding or whatever.Say your child is doing wacky (in a bad way) at school.
You can blame the teacher.
Or, you can blame yourself.
Blaming the teacher keeps your parenting skills stagnant and hard to work with.
Blaming yourself means you look at what you can do to make the situation better. It drives you to improve (e.g. more meaningful time spent with your child, finding alternative ways to handle a situation, better food choices or better relationship with your ex!) Blaming yourself doesn’t mean get out the whipping stick and telling yourself how bad you are.
The Bad Parent thinks they have all the necessary skills to raise children and don’t look for any more despite evidence that it’s not going so well.
The Good Parent instead takes control of the situation. They look to friends and family members for advice, they read books, maybe talk to an expert in the area of difficulty. They ponder, discuss, reflect and make decisions from there.
How has parenting changed?Parents don't want to parent any more. They want the schools and everyone else to parent their kids. Most are also too busy with their own lives and interests to have anything to do with their kids. They don't want to teach right from wrong or consequences of actions. Kids rule the parents and run amok. Common courtesy is not taught or expected.Oh, yeah, tons of parents are just babies themselves and rely on grandma and grandpa and the state to care for the kids.
Shane Rasor 1000
A lot of parents raise there kids in different ways so im not one to just say there a good parent or bad parent. But if i was to think of differences from a good parent and a bad parent it would be that bad parents would neglect their kids, such as not showing them any love and trying to avoid them by not caring for them. I thinking parenting these days are very different from what they use to be. Back in the day there was more strict rules and parents werent as lenient to letting their kids do whatever they pleased. Now a days parents let their kids do whatever they please and they don't punish their kids for when there mis-behaving. I think parents now a days are to scared to punish their kids or try to discipline them because they don't want to be the "mean parents". I think parents need to stop caring about how people think of how they raise there children. Some parents just need to become a little more strict and get a back bone and stop having their kids do what ever they please.
Brandan McDaniel
The difference between being a good parent and a bad parent is how your kids are brought up and how much you are truly involved in our children's lives. Majority of parents are not the same as they were 'back in the day.' Even as an 18 year old, I think from the time I was a 'kid' to now, parenting is already drastically different. When I was younger I got spanked, soap in my mouth and was disciplined for wrong behavior. Parents are afraid to discipline now because of child abuse laws and for the fear of not being liked by their children or even the childrens friends. I see nothing wrong with disciplining your child and nothing wrong with spanking them when they continuously misbehave. That's what I believe parents don't understand these days; they believe because it will most likely make their child cry that it is abuse. You'd know when you are crossing the line with spanking. Once marks start being made, you are abusing your child. Parents also don't shelter their kids like they used to. Kids are able to watch R rated movies at the age of 12, listen to mature music, watch innappropriate shows, etc. They are allowed to go places by themselves, stay home without supervision more and more, and so on. Parenthood is also changing with age, in that I mean parents are becoming younger and younger. I believe that is the reason for parenting styles to have changed because as a young parent you want to be 'cool' and you would definetly want to be friends with your child more so than an authority figure I think. Parents need to firm up and realize they are the ones in control and not be afraid of being disliked by kids. All kids dislike their parents one time or another, it's not avoidable.
Bryanna
I think that good parenting is when you take the time out to spend plenty of time with your children. Also, a good parent would never abuse their children. Parents raise their children a lot differently than they did thirty years ago. Many parents get divorced now and thirty years ago the divorce rate was a lot lower. Good parents like to be involved in their child's life and want to know who they are hanging out with. I think back in the day parents were better parents because a lot of the mothers stayed home and spent most of their time with the children which made the bond between the parents and the children stronger. A good parent would provide a nurturing environment for the children and taking them to the zoo or something of the sort every now and then for fun and educational purposes.
Shelby Walker
I think the difference between good and bad parenting is someone who actually notice their kids and takes care of them.. Now a days, you see some parents who never want anything to do with their kids so they let them do whatever they want. I think that's why you see a lot of kids getting in more trouble than ever because of the parents not noticing them and not disciplining them.
I don't think parents are the same from 50 years ago. I think parenting has started at a much younger age and being a young parents sometime they don't want the responsibly of the kids. So they just let them do whatever they want to.
I think things have changed in parent hood by the age of a parent getting younger and not having the desire to take care of their kids. I believe that some of these kids have no idea how to be a good parents because some of their own parents weren't very good to them.
I believe that we could maybe have more parenting class and that could help stop the bad parenting
Kyle Ogle (Noon)
The difference in how a child acts or behaves is how you raise your child. If you’re a good parent then you will do anything for your child to make sure nothing bad happens. A good parents makes sure their child comes first no matter what, and that they get anything they need. A bad parent doesn’t really care. Its that simple. Parents are nothing like what parents were like in the old days. In the old days you did what you were told right then you didn’t say no or wait it got done. Kids these days are running their parents. In some ways they have more power in the house. Always divorce wasn’t even a popular idea in the old days, now it’s rare to have both parents still married. There are a lot of single parents that are trying to play the role of both mom and dad. Also the government has made it hard to discipline your children which is good but hard for parents to have full control. I don’t think there is really anything we can do about bad parenting because it’s going to happen.
Caitlin Wakefield
The difference is "bad" is when the parents put their needs in front of their children.
No the parents of today, actually, the single parent of today is struggling to make ends meat, have no time for the kids because the parent is trying to keep food on the table and a roof over their kids heads or the people that have brought kids into this world, have their own agenda and most of the time is to focus on self presevation. Children are raising themselves and have become the parent over their sibblings. Which means that they have lost all hope of being a kid themselves.
The difference is that back then, it was about family, it was about being the best parent possible, the difference now is that the fathers are running away from their responsiblities of being a parent and more mothers are playing both parts.
By people using contraceptives or just not have sex until they are marriage. There are so many young people that are so "ready" to be grown that they think that includes being a parent, someone needs to point out the difference.
Linda H.
Good parenting and bad parenting are different to every person. A person may believe that they are a great parent, but someone else may have a different opinion. I think there are several characteristics that make up a good parent. First off, you must have the time to raise your child. If you don't have time to sit and read or play with your child, you are not a good parent. Children need constant attention and love and without that, they can end up with social and even psychological problems as they develop. A good parent also needs patience and compassion when raising a child. A parent needs to realize that your child is going to make mistakes, and that doesn't mean that your child is stupid or acting out. Love is the most important virtue when raising your child. Love is incredibly strong and even if you do make mistakes in parenting, if you give your child unconditional love, they are more willing to love you back.
Parenting styles have definitely become more lax over the last 20 or 30 years. Granted, there will always be those types of parents that are more strict and authoritative(such as my own) but parents as a whole have become much more laid back. This could be because there are more and more young people that are getting pregnant that should not be. These parents have difficulty with raising and disciplining their children, which leads to bad behavior. Parents need to be more educated about how to properly raise a child. This could mean going to a parenting class or even going to therapy to talk about good and constructive ways to parent. If more parents were more involved with raising their children and being in their children's lives, then we would have much more effective parenting as a whole.
~Megan Strom
In my opinion, I do not think there is such a thing as bad and good parenting because if there were such thing I think there would have been a manual and every parent would be good. I think that it all depends on how you learn to read and start understanding kid and the way they are. I think that that is one of the reasons why young parents are failing on being parents, because they are too young to understand that. I definitely disagree that parents nowadays are the same as back then. I say this because I have seen the difference. I mean there are still parents out there that are because that I how they were raised and that is the way they know of how to treat their children. Though, parents nowadays tend to be more comprehensive and some too laid back. What I mean by that I that there are parents that now tend to be too nice in the way that they let their kids do whatever and at times kids start becoming brats and disrespecting their own parents. I think that parents should be strict but to a point and be comprehensive, loving, and show respect so their child can respect them. Though, also parents should know when to allow their kids to do things because there are certain things that should wait until the appropriate age. For example, a mother should not be taking their five year old daughter to do their eyebrows and nails and everything that a teenager should do.
Angelita T. (8:00)
I think it is all on how a parent raises their child. Good parenting is going to come with caring for your child no matter what the case is. Always talking to them about everything possible. I think that bad parenting is when a parent just lets their kids do whatever the heck they want. I think that parenting in today society is a lot different then back in the day for many reasons. There were not as many strict of rules as there is today. Good parents teach their kids manners when they are around people and not just let them do anything and everything they want. Parents nowadays do not really have control over their kids because there kids were raised wrong and then they just end up walking right over there parents rules. There is really nothing that is going to stop bad parenting besides the parents changing how their kids act.
Brooke
Good parenting is when you are taking care of your child all the time. Unless your working, have some errands, or going out once in a month or two. Bad parenting is when the parents do not spend any of their time with their child or children. No, most days parents are younger and are not grown up yet themselves. They give up or give in on being the parents. Back in the day your parents told you what to do and you did it then and there. Parents should care more about there children, instead of going out all the time. Be a real parent because once they get older they might not ever forgive you.
Alexis H (noon)
There is a huge difference in good parenting and bad parenting. Good parents take care of their own child and put them first and bad parents do the complete opposite. They neglect their child or children and are selfish and do things for themselves and not their kids. I think when a parent isnt ready to be a parent and keeps the kid when they could grow up in a healthy and safe home that is a sign of bad parenting because eventually the parent regrets the kid and blames the kid for everything. Parents are nothing like they were back in the day. Back in the day family came first,not going out or any of the silly things parents worry about these days. I think that something could be done to end bad parenting but there is so much that goes on that no one knows about that it would be close to impossible to completely stop it.
Shelby F
i really dont like categorizing things as good or bad... but a lot may say it depends on how a parent raises their child, how they provide for them, what they teach them. I feel as if i am a "GOOD" parent. i am 22 years old, i have 3 little ones, i am a college student, and i sually have a job (however, i am trying to focus on school right now) there was a point when i was raising my oldest two by myself. i do almost whatever i can to make sure that my kids are well taken care of. i dont buy myself any thing, but i make sure my children are well kept. i make sure my kids are in a good day care with teachers who actually care about their well being, and teaches them what they need to know. i dont let them eat junk food all the time, and i get them educational learning toys. BUt, there are things i have done as a parent that i dislike. does this make me a bad parent?? i dont think so. i know some parents who never have their kid/kids, they always have someone keeping them. i know parents who are out every weekend , partying, and drinking, and i know parents who keep themselves looking nice, but their kids have nothing. i dont like parents like that. it burns me up!!! i dont think the parents today are like those back in the day. it seems that parents were the ones more in charge and the kids listened. today, kids talk back. hit their parents, etc. parents back then did not put up with a lot of stuff. i wish their were more parents like that.
Kiara D
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