Should parents learn how to teach their kids manners better? Why do parents just let their kids do whatever they want? Is the reason that we can't reprimand our children because of the DCFS (Department of Children and Family Services)? Do parents fear that if they spank or discipline their children someone will take it wrong and think that they are trying to beat their child instead? So many things go into parents head over this subject! Some people ask, why don't we reprimand our children like we were reprimanded by our parents? Do people think that if they discipline their children that their kids will not like them that much anymore? What do you think is a good method of discipline for children?Cheyenne (9:00)
18 comments:
I do not believe that using any sort of physical violence should be involved when trying to make your kids have better manners. By hitting your kid or "disciplining" then by physical violence, will only result in them resenting you as a parent and at the end of the day, they are not going to want to listen to any of the rules you set down. What has worked for many families, is simply giving a kid a time out when he/she has bad manners and taking away kids prized possessions when he/she is in trouble always gets a kid to change into a better well behaved kid. So I believe parents should discipline their kid, in mostly every way, besides physically hurting the kid,
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I think that DCFS plays a big part into spanking and disciplining their children. You hear so many stories about other parents spanking their children and the government comes in and takes the child away because of one little thing like spanking. I think in order for the children to behave you have to use discipline or at least a time out seat. If you don't the child thinks they can do whatever they want and they will sooner or later.
Emily
I think that DCFS plays a big part into spanking and disciplining their children. People always hear so many stories about other parents spanking their children and the government comes in and takes the child away because of one little thing like spanking. I believe in order for children to behave you have to teach them discipline or at least some type of punishment like going to the corner. If parents don't it often leads to kids thinking they can do what they want because theyve been taught they wont get in trouble for their actions.
Brandan McDaniel
i think parents do think if they disciplin they kids that they wont like them as much but some dont care in just tell them they will get over it but with certain kids parents disciplinung them will sometimes make them worse, good, or it just wont do nothing 2 them some kids dont need no disciplin to have manners.
Yes I think that parents need to do a better job at teaching their children manners, but they need to not be afraid of reprimanding their children. There have been several occasions that I have seen a child in stores with their parents and the parent doesn’t even know what they are doing or just lets them yell and scream to their hearts content. I don’t believe that parents should be afraid of disciplining their child; it is no concern of anyone else how you chose to discipline your kid. However there is such a thing as taking it too far and I believe that parents need to know that difference. Of course children don’t like to be disciplined but it is not about whether they like you or not it is about teaching them right from wrong and how to act.
Ryan
A lot of it depends on the age of the child. Some parents think that if they discipline there kids it’s going to have effect on the kids life in some sort of way. I think there is a difference in disciplining your kids and abusing your kids. Little kids do not really know any better if they do something wrong, so I see it as they may need a little spanking or talk with. The older the kids get the better they should know. For example, if you a raising a 14 year old and they are always going out parting and doing things they shouldn’t be doing that kid needs a talk with and needs to be grounded or have things taken from them. I don’t think DCFS needs to come in the picture unless there is terrible abuse happening in the household itself. When disciplining your kids you should also tell them in the end and make sure that they know you still love them but you only want the best for them.
Brooke
Yes parents should teach their children manners. These days these children are out of control, they have no respect for anyone. Their mouth's are foul and they are just bad. One day I was on the bus and a few young men tried to trip this lady that was walking pass. I shook my head and said if she would have fell that I would have taught them a lesson. I believe parents let their children do whatever because, they do feat DCFS. Once again these days people look at things different. I don't see how spanking your child is abuse. i appreciate being spanked the two or three times that I were. It teaches you a lesson to never do what you did again. So, the advice I would give to parents is that if parents don't want to risk spanking their child, they should take the things they love away. Take all electronics and I bet your child will behave because, those are things kids can't live without so they will get their act together. And I hope a parent wouldn't fear their child not liking them anymore that's just sad if I child would have hatred for their parents just because they got spanked for a quick second. Cry and get over it.
Shantel
All parents should teach their kids better manners. I'm around so many people that chew with their mouths open and its freaking nasty...like your parents must not have manners either. Not all parents let their kids do whatever they please and the ones that do are push overs. I was never spanked and I do not plan on spanking my chilren because there are other ways to dicipline them and let them know youre the parent and theyre the child.
I think it just depends. There is no right way to parent your children, but letting them walk all over you and do whatever they want isnt the way. Do I think beating your chidren is a good method absolutely not because that can lead to many other things.
kristina
They definitely should teach kids discipline. When i was younger i was disciplined and i dont feel any resentment towards my parents, nor do i feel hatred, or disrespect.
I think that if i were to have my own kids i would raise them the same as my parents did. I wouldnt change a thing. Parents are probably scared to punish theyre kids because DCFS will freak out and take their kid away. I dont really think that the government need to be involved, unless its a severe case that other people notice. But other wise i think the Govt. has gone a bit overboard. Almost to the point that parents are afraid to even reprimand their kids in public. Theyre's no perfect way to raise a kid, parents have flaws too and its hard. But i dont think that punishment is necessarily abuse... i remember i was spanked once in my childhood and i just knew that i was never doign that ever again... i learned from it.. i turned out fine. so who knows...
Sam lehman
I think DCFS scares a lot of parents today. I think discipline is a big part of parenting. If you spank your kid now in public people may take it wrong and think you are abusing your child. I think spanking your child isn't always a bad thing because it will make them realize what they did and works. There are other ways to discipline and all children will react different to different punishments. Some parents do believe if they make their children upset by discipline that they will not like them. Which is not true they will understand that they were wrong and that you are boss. I think it is a good way of discipline mainly because it gets the point right across and if you let your children get away with out discipline then they will think they are boss and talk back and do what they want.
Allyson
I agree that DCFS plays a big part into spanking and disciplining their children. Anymore a kid could cry abuse just to get attention or because their mad that they didn’t get their way. I’m not saying that spanking a child is going to teach them anything but it may or that it’s right or wrong. But I do believe that parents need to be more under control of their children. My sister for example has four girls and they walk all over her because they know they can. They throw fits in the store because they know that she will give in so they will stop crying. I think today that children are more out of hand because you can’t discipline them because it could be considered abuse. Children have no manners what so ever and I think it’s because parents are trying to be their friends more than beings their parent. It all depends on their age but I know from having four nieces and three nephews from two sisters that every parent does it different. But when you discipline you can’t give in because if you give in then the child has won. Discipline depends on age if you have a teenager take away phone, car, anything that they use, and for younger children may be taking away the TV or putting them in the corner. And also for any age take away whatever gaming system they have because anymore some kids pay attention to the directions on there in they do their parents.
--Caitlin Wakefield
I think that all kids should learn better manners. Todays youth is beyond rude and disrespectful. Not to mention half of them don't care about anything but themselves. I feel that if we don't start to take better disciplinary means wit our kids that in 20 years or less our society will become even more hectic, violent, and out of order.
Kyle Hubert
Parents defiantly need to teach children manners but is manners isn't the only thing you should worry about. It should also be the way the child talks to you. I read a article that said it's not the child's behavior it's the parents fault and the act like the parent. As if you yell at your child instead of spanking them or putting them in time out, the child will retaliate with screaming back. I believe that parents should try different methods to disciplining the child until it's to much and then the should get a spanking. I don't think that it should be all the time or crazy hard but sometimes that's the only was of disciplining their child. When I was younger my dad would spank us with the belt only if we were being really bad, i didn't want to be bad because the belt was terrible. But i never thought once that my dad didn't love me it should me that those things are wrong to do. I also don't think that is a good method to discipline. You should try talking to them and trying to explain. If that doesn't work then use a time out spot or somewhere were the child can see that their in trouble. Maybe also try to take something from them until they stop. If none of these things work then i do think it is time to give your child a spanking ,and there's nothing wrong with that sometimes those methods don't work and spanking does.
Alexis
I do not believe that using any sort of physical violence should be involved when trying to make your kids have better manners. By hitting your kid or "disciplining" them by physical violence, will only result in them resenting you as a parent and at the end of the day, they are not going to want to listen to any of the rules you set down. What has worked for many families, is simply giving a kid a time out when he/she has bad manners and taking away kids prized possessions when he/she is in trouble always gets a kid to change into a better well behaved kid. So I believe parents should discipline their kid, in mostly every way, besides physically hurting the kid.
Oh, did someone else already say this? I agree 100 percent. No kid whacking! If you whack your kid when they are little, I hope they whack you back when they get to be bigger and stronger than you.
Many times kids are smarter than their parents--they don't KNOW as much, but they are smarter and more true because they haven't been brainwashed yet, as most adults have, so if you "discipline" your kid because you think you're right and they are wrong, well, chances are you have it backward.
Look up something called "positive discipline" (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Positive_Discipline). That's more like it.
James Burke
If you start teaching your kids early what the meaning of "no" or "don't do that" is then i feel like discipline is not necessary. the goal is to start teaching them at a early age of what the meaning of no is and what it should be. because if you start hitting your kids now when they get older they will realize that is ok, and so on and so on until you have a generation of criminals
Xeromy Kaizad
i believe that using physical punishment is not at all horrible nor putting a child in time out but also it is a such thing as going too far you're not suppose to slap the hell out of your kid to were they turn red but it is okay to discipline your child in any way possible not very harmful but if that's how you want to discipline your child then that's your business unless necessary to bring dcfs custody into it like bruising a child permanently or hitting a child inappropriate until he or she bleeds then no that is not acceptable however some parents just discipline their children based on how they were disciplined growing up and some are really scared that if they discipline their children physically then their kids will hate them or even grow up being terrible but i do believe if you treat your kids like their your friends and dont let them know who the parent is and who the child is they run over you and do what they want but if they have discipline they have respect.
-Angel
i will start off by saying , when we become parents, it alll depends how young you are. if you are a child yourself, it's very hard to raise a chid. i do think there are parents out there, that let there kids do anything they want, because they don't really want to be a parent. but there are also, parents that do discipline there kids. maybe thats grounding, or maybe that is taking something around. i don't believe in spanking a child. i don't like it. i got spanked a few times when i was young, and i don't hate my parents for that at all, because i got alot when i was young and as a teenager, but my father was also , my father and bestfriend. he raised me really well. and as always been there for me. i don't think there is a certin method for childern. i think its kinda how you feel your child is, but def no beating. that is just a no.
darcy.
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