Wednesday, March 16, 2011

Serious Relationships At A Young Age

Do you think it's healthy for teenagers to consider themselves in a serious relationship? At that age do you think either the boy or girl is ready for what serious relationships bring: babies, serious commitment, and marriage?

When you're in a serious relationship, do you think you tend to make choices considering what is best for the relationship instead of what's best for you? Should teens be doing that--putting the priorities of a relationship before the prioroties of what's best for them as individuals?

Do you think the biggest regrets people have are from their teenage years? Do you think teens sometimes waste a lot of time and energy on something that wasn't meant to last?

Stephanie Odom (1:00)

23 comments:

English student said...

i feel that age doesn't really matter, its really about your maturity level. many teens start dating at 13 and are sexually active at the age of 11 now. so really i feel that children shouldnt date until they are mature enough to make grown up decisions.

dea shanay dorris

English student said...

I believe you can't consider a serious relationship until you are out of high school. When you are still in high school you are living with your parents and are obeying their rules, like curfew and etc. I think if you start a serious relationship at a young age then you will regret your teenage years and in the long run could hurt a relationship. I think teens should make a decision for themselves and not a couple at a young age.
Jared (1:00)

English student said...

I feel that age doesn't matter in this predicament, it all depends on how mature you are as an individual.Being a teen doesn't really matter, it all depends on the individual because some grown people are not even ready for committment,marriage, nor babies.
- JaTaun

English student said...

It depends on how old the teenager really is. It's hard to say because everyone matures at their own rate. When i was 15 i was in a serious relationship. But as far as marriage goes, i think that teenagers dont seem to know what is really best for them i dont understand why something like that can't wait. Honestly i think it is stupid to get married and even stupider to have kids at the age of 17 or 18. You have your whole life ahead of you. Why would you want to throw the best years of your life down the drain? Especially if you think you are ready to have kids. Whats so bad about living for today and just waiting? Why does everyone want to grow up so fast? i think no one is ready for marriage and babies until at at least 20, 21. If you are one of these people ten years from now you are going to see your kids having a great time wondering..... "why didn't i savor these moments?"
Nikki

English student said...

I do not think is is healthy for young kids to be in a "serious" relationship, even though I was at that age. It was so I had someone who "loved??" me. I have three children--two had relationships starting in junior high or earlier. They have both had many dysfunctional relationships. They have a tendency to hang on to them thinking they can fix it--just like their mom did. They were so wrapped up in their boy/girl friends that school and extracurricular activities were not that important and they did not join in activities. Neither one of them attended college. My other daughter was very active in school and all of it's functions. She had social circles of friends instead of a boyfriend. When she finished high school she went on to put herself through college and is now a teacher. She does want a husband and children one day but is willing to wait for the right man instead of settling for anyone just to have someone. So I believe that children that learn to socialize and not separate themselves from the majority grow up with a better self esteem.
Peg B. (1:00)

English student said...

I think that it is okay for teenagers to date and that some serious relationships can be healthy at that age, as long as the relationship doesn't go to far. In the past, people were getting married at 18 and many of these relationships ended up last over fifty years. I think the two people in the relationship have to be mature enough to know when enough is enough and that they are not just staying together because they feel like they would be heart broken if they were not. However, the couple needs to be responsible for their actions such as choosing to be sexually active. If you are not able to care for the child than you should not be doing it.
Morgan Russian

English student said...

I feel like age shouldn't really be a factor. It's all about maturity level. What happens a lot of the time is that the teens get too caught up in the relationship and it goes too far. As long as the teens are mature enough to know how to control the relationship and keep it healthy I don't see a problem with it.
Allison Pulkrabek

English student said...

I think have a serious relationship as a teenager is STUPID!!! Well yes there are things one gains from being in one, but I do tend people makes choices sometimes on what is best for the relationship. What everyone should do is worry first about get there education out of the way, then becoming self dependent. As a young person I don't think one really needs to get into a serious relationship until after college. So while you are in college get in your education, and have fun! No one needs to be stressed out because of some relationship. Also if you aren't going to go to college get a stable job first become independent and then consider getting in a serious relationship. I am one who doesn't think you should marry the first person you date. One should get out there and explore go through many different people then decide what you truely want.

Micah

English student said...

In my opinion, I feel that it doesn't really matter what age you are. I think that if they are careful and they don't drop out of school then it's fine. I also think that if a girl or boy falls in love they should consider who they are dating. They could just be dating that person for reputation in school and not for how they are treated by that person.

Personally, I think life is much easier growing up when you are single. You have time to take care of your self and not have to worry about what someone thinks of you.

Hillary M. (11:00)

English student said...

I feel that there is not a set age where you can and can't be in a serious relationship. I feel that you should be at least in college though. Surely by the time you are in college you should have different experiences with relationships. By this time also you should have a better idea about where you plan on your life taking you and you should be mature enough to make adult decisions like marriage. At a young age you should make decisions that benefit you, because you have your whole life to be in a relationship. You don't have you whole life to create your future. I think that teens do waste a lot to money on relationships that probably won't last, the time is not wasted though because you just have to give it a try to find a partner you like.

Clayton B. (11:00)

English student said...

I think that to be in a serious relationship takes people many many years to actually be considered serious. I think many teenagers believe that they are in a serious relationship when actually they are just experiencing attraction to someone for the first time. Relationships are a very serious thing and take much time to develop. I believe teens do not quite have the critical thinking skills to evaluate a relationship correctly.

Brett Scott (11:00)

English student said...

I belive that age is just a number and being mature is what it really boils down to if you are in highschool and you are a mature teenager you could find the one that you will spend the rest of your life with. I think that kids should date in highschool but really before that its just puppy love, I dont think that kids grasp it until they mature and for some thats not till even after highschool, so really its all up to the person if they are mature it doesnt matter what age you are.

tyler farmer (11:00)

English student said...

I think the teens should not be in a "serious" relationships. You can date and have fun but I feel that when someone is in a serious relationship they do tend to think whats best for both people instead of just themselves.
Also if your in a serious relationship you may regret it later because you held yourself back from things you might have wanted to do.

Darci (11:00)

English student said...

If two people love each other, I don't think that there should be an age limit that people can define them as serious. They may change their minds later, but you live and learn. That is just part of life.

Landon W 11:00

English student said...

I don't think it matters what age you fall in love it could be when your young or old. I think though if your goanna get real srious with babies, and so on then i think you need to make sure that together as a couple you will need to have the money to do so. The only hold up for being serious when your young is you havn't searched around for other people and really put all your eggs in one basket. They may be really great together but if you havn't tried being with another person you made yourself very narrowminded and you could be happy with your decision or later you may want to explore with other people but it's to late cause you already have a wife. I think if you love eachother enough let eachother explore and if it's right you will come back to eachother.
-jake rone-

English student said...

I don't think that serious relationships should start until like high school, any younger than that the kids don't realize how much goes into a relationship, there can be crushes and people liking other people, but falling in love isn't just having fuzzy feelings for someone else, thats part of it, but not all of it. Love is wanting to do anything for that other person, making sure that they are happy and taken care of and them doing the same thing for you. Its a mutual thing. And in high school, especially juniors or seniors, have a higher maturity level and have a better understanding at what they want in life. "High school sweet hearts" come to mind when this is brought up, if you find the love of your life in high school than more power to you!. And when it comes to making decisions I make them regarding both of us, not just me, because I'm not thinking about just me; I can't. There's another person in the picture now, so I have to consider their decisions too.

~Lauren (11:00)

English student said...

It not healthy for teens to have a serious relationships, they should be more focused on school and their future...in the future there will tons of changes that we don't know about.

Daniel (1:00)

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