Should we wait and save ourselves? Should we save ourselves until marriage? Should we wait till we meet the right person? What if the "right" person turns out to be the wrong person in the end? How can we be sure of their fidelity after we give them our ultimate gift? Is sex before marriage the wrong choice? And if we don't wait, what if they leave us afterwards? By waiting do we in fact save ourselves?
Thanks for your time!
Yiveni Cardoso (1:00)
29 comments:
I believe that it is hard to say who is the right person. i think that sex is not that big of a deal as it used to be. i respect the fact that people choice to wait until marriage to have sex, but i certainly don't think that if a person does not wait until marriage it is wrong either On the other hand, i do believe that a people should not have sex with someone they do not know very well. Personally i did not want to wait until marriage, and i really don't have a reason why, but it was someone i did care about and i knew very well. In conclusion, having sex is not that big of a deal as long as your safe and responsible about it.
Omar Al-Chaar (12:00)
I think everyone should be open to what they feel is right and make their own choice on that. It would probably help a relationship if sex is held off until marraige. Alot of arguments in relationships are based on sexual experiences. And another reason is the scare of STDs. If you wait and meet the right person who cares about your feelings and is willing to wait to have sex, thats the person you want to be with. It's hard to find someone that is okay with not having sex. They feel as if sex is a big part in a relationship and with out sex you have nothing. Sex before marriage isn't wrong. You should be able to have sex with someone you care about, regardless of if you think your going to be with that person the rest of your life.
Jessica Ebeling (1:00)
i dont think in todays world having sex is big deal. in my opinion till i know more then 99% of teenages have sex who are not even 16yet they dont even know what they are doing but they still have sex with people who they known for day or two. there are some people out there who are waiting unitl they get married. personally i think it all depends on your cultural background and the enviroment you grew up in.
ashish patel
I think it all depends upon personal preference, how one was raised,and one's morals and beleifs. I personally am not religious so i think there's nothing wrong with sex before marrage. I do think that permiscuous sex isn't a good idea because it's unsafe, but who am i to tell someone they can't be permiscuous? I think it's up to each person whether they would like to save themselves for marriage or not.
Allison Hayes
I think that it depends alot on your religion. You're supposed to wait until marriage, but in this day in age, more than half of marriages end in divorce, so basically its your call. If you wanna have sex before marriage, go for it, if you dont, then dont. At the end of the day you are the one who has to live with yourself, so try and make the best possible decision. I dont think it matters if you have sex before marriage, its apart of life. People were born to have sex! Thats how we create!
I dont really think sex is that big of a deal nowadays. I personaly wouldnt want to wait till i got married to have sex. I think that its part of any serious relationship but if you want to wait till marriage then go for it. it defenitly will be harder to find that type of person that will wait for it but who knows mabey itll be worth it. i would like to know if the significant other way good at sex before i went all the way and married them. i mean come on shouldnt you know first? mabey not final answer i dont think that theres anything wrong with getting to know someone for while and having sex.
--James Burke
i personally dont care either way, if someone wants to wait then that is their choice, but if they dont want to that is also their choice. people have different ideas about what sex is, some think it is for someone they are in love with and thats what love is signified by, but others just think it is a good time. as long as the proper precautions are made and people are honest about their past sexualexperiences then if people want to have sex before marriage that is fine. there are alot of people who think they have met the "right" one but they may be young and not really now what they want and they end up not being together. i dont think that things arent as "special" with the person you finally marry if you have had sex before then. if you love someone thats that sex shouldnt be a factor in it. i think people should be able to have sex and not feel like they arent "saving" themselves for marriage, its a natural thing to do.
kaleen bittner
I think it is Honestly a matter of opinion. I really don't think either view is wrong. IF someone waits until marriage,good for them. If they give into their urges before hand and are safe about it, sex should b a wonderful thing. All I say is if you haven't yet but are thinking about it, think about it carefully and ask your self questions such as; do I really care about this person, will they be with me for a long time, Are they a good person? If you can answer yes to the questions you ask then I would say just let sex happen naturally.
ok...so don't think I'm meant to comment on here, but what the heck, it's public.
'Sex is not that big a deal as it used to be'
I find that an intriguing opinion, given that two of the biggest vote swingers in the country are abortion and homosexuality. Or is it that you don't link the two?
I'm gonna focus on the first and say that the main problem with sex before marriage is a lack of responsibility. You can use all the protection you like, but every time you have sex, you have to be prepared for the fact that you might get pregnant. It may be unlikely, but it's still a possibility. So many problems are caused by people who don't consider that seriously.
Forget religious reasoning, that will vary from person to person. What doesn't change is simple biology, and the consequences that sex can lead to. I have to ask, if every 15yr old who jumps into bed considered first if they wanted a baby, would that not solve a number of problems including high abortion rates?
I agree that it is one's own personal choice. But at the same time, if you are ready to engage in sexual intercourse outside of marriage, then you need to be ready to face the possible consequences. Sex has become as common as shaking hands with one another in todays society, and is not the private declaration of love that it once was. I think if you are in a stable relationship and decide to start having sex you need to talk with your partner about what the possible out comes may be. So many teenagers today are faced with the hard issue of getting pregnant at very young ages & act very surprised, they need to know that no birth control contraceptive is totally 100% affective. It makes a lot of sense to wait until you are married to have sex for the emotional & physical outcomes, but it really isn't a realistic idea for our society today.
Abby Pennington (12:00)
I believe that everyone should do what they feel. Its whatever you want to do, I dont feel its wrong at all its your decision to do. The only reason everyone wants to save themselves is because of STDS or possiblity of having a baby which are good reasons but you can wait your whole life and then when you are finally ready you can get pregnant and still get a STD and then you guys break up. This is not the movies, I feel people who are searching for mr/ms right wont find them. You just have to let it come to you.
I believe it would be a great thing for people to wait until marriage, but very few do so. They could be all nice to another just to get them to have sex. It seems like people may change after they have sex. For example they have sex with you and think they can get others to have sex too. When talking about the right person, that is very hard to find. One may think that they have found the right person until they have dated them for a long period of time and figure out they are not that great. People who think they have found the right person already had sex with them, so they weren't able to save themselves. Sex before marriage is not a wrong choice, it's a person wanting to experiment and see what it is like. It is very likely for a person to give it up and down the road they don't work out. When waiting to have sex that is probably the best thing a person can do because when dating someone for a short time the true self doesn't come out until they have dated them for a long period of time. By waiting you do indeed save yourself, but that is definately a persons own choice.
Jennifer Woodward (12:00)
I think people should wait until they are married and have found that "right" person. I know that every man and woman has certain standards that he or she goes by. And until he or she has found that one person that meets all or some of those standards, and the other person feels comfortable, then marriage just may be a something to do.
Saving oneselves is a good thing, because one who has not experienced sex can experience that with the one they love... once that individual is married. However if someone is not married and decides that is something that he or she wants to pursue, then as long as they go about using the proper protection and are sure about their decision, then that's something they wanted to do. I believe by waiting, one will find that special person and will be able to experience something with their partner.
Sex before marriage is a personal choice that someone has to make on their own. If someone feels that they have found the right person and their not married yet then they should have the choice and not have to feel bad about having sex with that person. Some people have stronger feelings about this topic then others and i feel that it isnt any ones choice to make but your own. You cant help the way you feel about a person and you shouldnt let guilt get in the way of your actions.
I dont think people should wait until they get married before they have sex. I respect people who do wait until they get married, but when i get married i would want to be well experienced in the matter. Having sex before marriage is a sin, but when it happens you really don't have any control because you want to get it over with. Personally, I didnt want to wait until i got married before i had sex. I think in the society today, sex is imposed in everything. You see sex on t.v shows, in the music we listen to daily, and in magazines. Im not saying its impossible to wait till you get married, but its really hard due to temptation.
Gregory Owens(1:00)
I think that it's each individual's choice rather to save themselves for marriage or not. I think that it would be nice if more people did because it could slow down the rate of spreading sexually transmitted diseases. Also it would be nice to give your virginity to your wife or husband on your wedding night and make it extra special. If you did decide to marry someone then you would think at the time they were the right person, and if they weren't, at least you didn't you didn't sleep with a lot of people in the mean time. I also think that anyone who would wait till marriage to have sex must really love you and is probably the right person. If you don't wait however, and the person leaves you then it's probably proof you weren't with the right person and it's a good thing you didn't marry them, right?
I believe that this a choice that each person has to make on their own. It's not something you can really take a stance on because its different for every individual. Its also hard to judge who is the right person because sometimes later on you could regret it even though they felt like the right person at the time. I don't think sex before marriage is a wrong choice or a right choice. Its a decision we all have to make at some point in our lives.
I don't think saving yourself until mariage is the right thing to do. Now I know religion plays a key role in that and since I am not extremly religious I feel that you can love someone enough before marriage to have sex with them. I feel that the way the media depicts sex that everyone wants to do it by the time they are 16 years old. You see it in your favorite movies, on your favorite shows, and in your favorite books. I think that the act of sex has changed from the ultimate act of love to the most satisfying act of love. I think most people are no longer virgins once they get their frist real girlfriend or boyfriend. I feel if you save yourself thats great but it does not make you a bad person if you have sex with someone you once loved and even though you no longer feel that way that it still means something special to you.
When it comes to religion, you are suppost to wait until you are married. But when it comes to our world today, casual sex is starting to become a very acceptable trend. I think that it depends on what the person wants to do, and if they want to wait until marriage, or not wait, its their choice. I personally grew up wanting to wait until marriage. ONce i got into high school however, i thought that he was the right one. He WASN'T! To this day i wish i would have waited longer, and i wish that i could have given my boyfriend that gift, but its something i can't take back. We never know if someone will leave you after, its just a chance you have to take if you really want to. Overall i think everyone has a choice to decide for themselves, just make sure that person really cares about you, and most of all make sure that you are ready and its what you truely want.
-Emily Stege
No person should wait to have sex until they are married. The reason I believe this is, because if you are not good in bed your marriage is not going to work. I would never think about marring someone that I have never had sex with. Hell, I would not date you longer than a week if we have not had sex by the third data. Having sex before marriage. Also, helps you learn if you would want to keep having sex with this person any longer. This same way of thinking could be true for dating to.
From Steve Gratkins (9:00 a.m.)
I do think we should save ourselves. I was raised that I should. I was also raised that divorce is not the issue. I think that if you are going to marry a guy that you think is mr. right, you should stay with him no matter what. it's like Tammy Wynette's song. Stand by Your Man. Even if he does turn out to be a jerk, you married him for a reason. You just have to work things out. You should make sure you know what he is like before you go and rush into marriage just to have sex, and say that you saved yourself till marriage. That is totally the wrong idea. My parents were high school sweethearts. They had a bumpy road and fought a lot. My dad finally told my mom that they were getting married. They were engaged for 2 years. 2 years, that is amazing. Some only last like 6 months. They got to know who each other was. And they are together to this day. Happy as ever. I think that saving ourselves is the best thing, because we have that gift that only one person can take. That person is the person that will stick by you no matter what. Through sickness and health. True Love!
Katelyn Watterson 9:00
I think it's great if someone wants to "save themselves" for the right person. But, in this modern world it's probably unrealistic to expect to find someone that has saved themselves for them. I believe you shouldn't have sex before your married, but I don't think very many people think this way anymore. I also think people have sex just to be having sex, which I think is wrong with all the dangers out there with diseases and etc.
I believe that you should not save yourself for the "right" person because how do you know this is the "right" person? But I believe that if you are going to save yourself, save yourself for marriage. I also think that schools should be teaching how to keep yourself safe and away from pregnancy then teaching absentace. I think it would cut down on teen pregnancy and STD's. I also believe alot of people downplay sex as being not a big deal. I know 14 and 15 year olds who have already had sex.
Justin Stout (1:00)
I believe that it's a persons choice to wait or not to wait until marriage or that special someone. A person can't really be sure if that's the right person or not. Life isn't always fair and people will come and go and you might think they are the one but end up being the completely opposite. This is why life is so challenging and why it's full of decisioning making decisions. I think waiting until marriage is the best route I guess because it's marriage but if its before marriage and it's safe and has a meaning behind it, it's ok I believe.
Cesar (9:00)
I don't think that it's necessary to save ourselves until marriage. It's a person's choice whether they want to do that or not. Sex is a natural human instinct and can be enjoyed for pleasure as well, as long as the person in responsible. Yes, you never can really know about someone and if the person you marry is actually the "right" one. You really have to have known the person for years and have seen them in the good times and the bad to trust them. People who get married to soon into a relationship really don;t know if their spouse is being faithful. Sex before marriage isn't necessarily the wrong choice because you might have such high expectations for it when you get married and might get really hurt if you find out your spouse isn't faithful. As long as you're being respectful and responsible, sex can be enjoyed before marriage and it's not really an issue. If someone you're in a relationship leaves you after sex, then it's a clear indication that they weren't the right one because they were only after the physical things and not a real relationship. I don't think we save ourselves by waiting; all we're doing is denying ourselves our natural human needs.
I think that we should save ourselves, but in society today its very rare for someone to wait til they are married to have sex. As far as meeting the right person, how do you ever know if it is the right one. That person could be the one at the begining of a relationship, but turn out to be the wrong person in the end. There is no way to be sure of their fidelity after we do give them the ultimate gift. You just have to trust them to be faithful.
It should be left up to that person. In some believes waiting until marriage is what you are suppose to do, but now it seems as if people are doing it before marriage. Waiting to marriage would probably be better because you can give that person something that you have never given anyone. then you have to think about what if you dont get married...then what do you do?
--Twila Douglas
I think you should wait if that is what you want to do. It should not be anyone else’s choice but your own. I do believe you should wait until the “right” person, but sometimes you are wrong, and that was not the right person. And if the “right” person was the wrong person you should not regret it, and be upset, because you can never take back what happened, and even though it is hard, you should not be upset, because that person was the right person at a time, and you did love them at a time. I think sex before marriage is not the wrong choice or the right choice, because I feel it depends on the person. If they feel it is the wrong choice they should stick with that idea and not let temptation or others change their mind. By waiting you do save yourself. It is an amazing gift that you can give someone. And if you are one of the lucky people who have saved themselves for marriage, I think that is one of the greatest gifts you can give someone on your wedding night.
Kristine D'Urso
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