I recently read an article with the following quote: "Tellingly two founders of a ministry established to 'heal' homosexuals later described their program as 'ineffective ... not one person was healed'."
Before you answer this question, please give it some deep thought.
Question: Why are some people gay? Do you believe that 80% of people (including heterosexuals) have had an attraction to their same gender at some point in their life? Do you believe being gay is a phase? Or do you believe people are born gay? What makes people gay? Is it genetics? Why do you think so? Or is it a choice? In a society that makes it very difficult to be gay, why do you think people would make that choice? Do you think people's upbringing and lifetime circumstances affect people and cause them to become gay?
21 comments:
i think that gay people choose to be gay and i also think that the reason they gay is because the had childhood issues that affected their judgement. i also think that some people go through a phase because they are confused.
Edwidge Philizaire
I believe that some gay individuals were indeed born gay through genetics, they did not have a choice, it is who they are. While others, might possibly be experiencing a phase in which they're going through. Homosexuality is something I believe we all eventually will have to live with and respect, even if it is a choice.
James Johnson
i dont think anyone was meant to be gay. we obviously are meant to be attracted to the opposite sex, since the core purpose is reproduction, and we can obviously only two humans of opposite sex can reproduce. i think that seems pretty logical. some people are not naturally attracted to either sex, and this may cause them to think they are gay because they are not attracted to the opposite sex.
-Blake
Homosexuality is not genetic at all. There is no proof for this at all. Unitl scientist actually find biological evidence of this I will not even consider it possibly genetic. I think there are circumstances that causes a person to become a homosexual. Like if they were sexually melested when they were children and so on. Thos people can overcome it though that's what counseling is for. Homosexuality is a sin that's what I believed my whole life and I'm sticking to it!
Dan Berger
I honestly don't know where homosexuality comes from. In my opinion it doesn't really matter. It exists. The question is quite pointless to me. It's the same as asking where did love come from: were you born with it or did you learn it. There are many things in this world that can't be explained. Science is full of theories. Scientists make theories because they don't know the answer and they can't rest unless they have an explanation for everything.
In my opinion, everything doesn't need an explantion. Who cares how the world was created; its here so lets just live in it.
Society makes it hard for gays to live peacefully because they don't understand it. Society is full of contradictions. Don't believe me? Do a survey beginning with: What is love? Then ask them about their views on homosexuality. Watch for many contradctions.
In my opimion, you can't help who you love, what you are interested in, or how you feel.
Richauna Williams
Jan about that first response you can just delete that I really dont know what I was thinking but this is the response i want to leave sorry about that...
I feel that people are gay because they choose to be or they just want to try something new. I also think thast they are gay because maybe they were in a bad relationship with someone of the opposite sex and they don't want to get hurt agin so they date somebody of the same sex. Yes i do agree I personally never been attracted to the same sex but i am sure that everybody thought about dating somebody of the same sex at once in there life. I really don't know if it is a phase or not but i do feel that maybe one day they will grow out of it. But i'm not sure.No i don't believe anybody is born gay i feel that they choose to be gay and i'm sure that they have there reasons. I dont know whats make people gay maybe they feel like being gay. No i don't think that it is genetics or anything like that. I think when they get around a certain age they just wake up one morning and say i am going to be gay. Yes it is a chose that they have to be gay its not like somebody is forcing them to be gay or anything, they want to be gay be thats how they feel.Yes and no because some parents basically just raise there kids up by certain other kids and treat them like there babies like giving them a bath when there 10 or 11.
Edwidge
Jan about that first response you can just delete that I really dont know what I was thinking but this is the response i want to leave sorry about that...
I feel that people are gay because they choose to be or they just want to try something new. I also think thast they are gay because maybe they were in a bad relationship with someone of the opposite sex and they don't want to get hurt agin so they date somebody of the same sex. Yes i do agree I personally never been attracted to the same sex but i am sure that everybody thought about dating somebody of the same sex at once in there life. I really don't know if it is a phase or not but i do feel that maybe one day they will grow out of it. But i'm not sure.No i don't believe anybody is born gay i feel that they choose to be gay and i'm sure that they have there reasons. I dont know whats make people gay maybe they feel like being gay. No i don't think that it is genetics or anything like that. I think when they get around a certain age they just wake up one morning and say i am going to be gay. Yes it is a chose that they have to be gay its not like somebody is forcing them to be gay or anything, they want to be gay be thats how they feel.Yes and no because some parents basically just raise there kids up by certain other kids and treat them like there babies like giving them a bath when there 10 or 11.
Edwidge
From Debra Porter:
I believe that people are gay for lots of reasons. I do believe that 80% of people have an attraction to their same gender at some point in their life. Being gay is not just a phase, and I do think that people are born gay. I dont think genetics have anything to do with it, because if they're parents are gay, they can't have a child together, so they must adopt, so it can't be genetic. I'd have to say that maybe it's something to do with their chromosomes or something different is going on in their brain cells, (like a bunch of other diseases out there), but that could just be an easy answer. I'm sure there's been research done about the chromosome thing, but that's just what I think. I don't know how else to explain it. I don't think it's a choice, because if it was a choice for people to be gay or not, I think a lot of them would end up deciding to not be gay, because society is so harsh on homosexuals. I dont think people can "become gay", since I already said that they are born gay.
In my opinion, we as a society don't know to this day why people are gay.But we shouldn't judge no body because we don't know what the situation of how they got started and why. The only thing we can do is pray for them like the bible taught us, bcause they are still one of God children just like we are. God are the only one who is able to judge not nobody else.This from Catina Moore
I don't know why some people are gay. I have seen some little kids who displayed stereotypical traits that we label as "gay." I have also had gay guy friends who told me that they have overbearing mothers. I don't believe that 80% of the population has had an attraction to their same sex. I don't believe that being gay is a phase. You either are, or you are not. I don't think that gay people choose to be gay, because as you so eloquently noted (and I pat you on the back for having such insight!), why would they choose to be gay and risk being ostracized by most of society? I don't think most people would willfully choose to do something that would cause them this kind of grief. And no, I am not gay. I just think you made a really good point that I had never thought of before!!!
Stacie Carlson
Some people are gay becuse they just dont find the other sex attractive, so they try their same sex which is nasty! What type of satisfaction can you get from another man? Or it could be from early child hood ages where the guy grew up around all girls; or the girls grew up around a bunch of guys and got the same intrest as their siblings. Or some people can become curious of what it will be like to have a relationship with another sex. I dont know. But Its real wired to be kissing on another man as strong as you and has the same body parts as you, its not right. If a person is gay its cool if it makes them happy, but its not cool for me to do.
People are gay because they just are. There really isn't an explanation. Some people say that gay people are born that way, or they choose to be gay. I don't agree with any of these things. I think it's more like just the person they turned out to be, like it's in their blood, or something. 80% of people could have an attraction to the same sex, but that could mean that they envy the other person, or they just think that that person has a great personality. Being gay isn't a phase, some people can get this confused with a person wanting to "experiment" with a friend of the same sex, or trying something new. In this society it is a downfall to be gay. People don't make the choice to be gay, it's who they are, and no one has the right to judge them on it. That would be like someone judging another person because they like blondes, or brunnettes, everyone has their prefrences, and I don't see why it matters. There are more important issues in this world, then to look down on people, or to deny people of the life they lead, or the ones they love. I think ones life being, and the way they were raised has nothing to do with a person being gay. You can't "cause" someone to be gay, being gay is a natural thing, and like I said, it's just who they are, and it's in their blood.
-Caitlin Parker
I think that it is a choice to be homosexual. They were not born that way, and I definately dont think that it is genetic. God placed us here on earth to reproduce and that is it. We should love everyone the same, and not judge them for that choice, but I still believe it is wrong, no matter the circumstance.
Society makes things for people that are homosexual very difficult. For some people that is a drive for them to want it that much more. When you were a child, if your parents told you no, you cant have that toy, you just wanted it more. You would work your hardest to get what you wanted, even if in the end you didnt want the toy after all. Some people love to rise to the occasion and try to do what society frowns upon.
I will never judge a person who choses to be homosexual, I will love them with a christ-like love, but I still believe that it is wrong for them to participate in it.
Bridgette Overmyer
From Barb Beals:
I don't think it's right to necessarily give or not give "permission" to be gay. I believe that a person that is attracted to the same sex can be gay for several reasons. Either you're born with it, or maybe a bad relationship made you hate the opposite sex. For any reason someone might be gay it's only an issue because it's been made into one. It's just like interracial marriage and dating. It's only an issue because as a society we've decided that it's out of the 'norm' for people to do such things. It would be funny to me to see a gay interracial couple. Wouldn't that turn heads. I don't think that they should be kept from being able to get married. Most gays show signs when they are very young so why would it be so astounding to learn that they are gay as an adult. I think that this is such a big deal because parents want to live in denial, and if there is something 'out of the ordinary' with their child that it is somehow their fault, so if the child has grown up to be an adult then comes home to tell mom and dad the truth, it may make the parents blame themselves for not rearing their kid the right way. That somehow they made them into being gay. I say do what makes you happy and if it doesn't harm someone else, then go for it. If you were married just to hide, then I think you better make your husband/wife your best friend, and have an open marriage for the kids sake. My last point is that if someone truly loves you like your parents, siblings, and kids they will love you unconditionally. It may be a hell of a shock but eventually they will love you because at the very least at least you're being honest.
I think people are gay becasue they choose to be, and it is their personal decison and how they want to live their life. I dont really believe that 80% is true, it seems like a really high number, but there are a lot of people in the world so. I dont think being gay is a phase, i mean you know what you want and who you are attracted too. If you are gay, and then decide to try dating the opposite sex again, i think it would be very difficult. I dont think people are born gay, everyone grows and matures at different ages and when they are little they are not sure in which sex they like. I dont think being gay has anything to do with genetics. I think people chose to be gay because that is who they are, they feel comfortable with themselves and they can come out in the open and talk about being gay and let everyone else around them now too. Rosie O'Donnel always talks about her wife a lot, and she has no problem talking about it. I think that is the way it should be, people shouldnt have to hide anything. I think it does, most parents dont want their children to be gay, in their religion they are against being gay. I think it makes them afriad to show who they are. I know in my church, being gay is wrong. I dont know anyone has came out and said they are gay. I would still be their friend if they did turn out to be gay. I dont judge people because of what they like.
From Stephanie Eick
Wow we got a doozie here. In my own personnel opinion, being gay starts somewhere in the beginning of a new life when your genetic make-up is being composed. I think something "Short circuits" somewhere along the lines and thats what you become. As having a gay nephew, I look back and can see all the tendicies he had as a young child, and they were always a bit more femine than most boys, so I fully believe being gay stems from some mis calculation in a person genetic make-up. Just my 2 cents.
Ben Rogers
I believe that if you are gay, you were that way from the start. Even before reading that article(good article by the way) I have a brother who has just told the family he has a male lover. When he first told me I wasnt shocked and told him that as far as I was concerned that everybody all ready had suspected it for many years. He is older than I but I feel he probably showed some of the tendencies as small child. I dont think you can "heal" someone form being gay in fact I will pass on a quote that I found while listing my blog on same sex relationships (please all reply, to mine as well)
"If homosexuality is a disease, let's all call in queer to work: "Hello. Can't work today, still queer." ~Robin Tyler
If it was just a choice, it would be like choosing to hit your head against the wall several times a day for minutes at a time. No one would "Choose" to do that and in that sense why would anyone " choose" to go against the grain of (dont take this wrong) what is percieved as normal (hetrosexual)relationships. I have wondered at times though if maybe something tragic in your young life could have helped you lean towards on sex over the other. I have a neice that is gay and she was sexually abused by an older child relative when she was very young. I have often wondered if that lifetime circumstance could have helped in her decision to date only women.
Dave Crain
My personal opinion on someone being gay is that having a relationship with the opposite sex didn't work out, or simply because they are attracted to the same sex. There are so many reasons why people are gay and not everyone of them is clear. I think that heterosexuals do have an attraction to the same sex. They think guys are nice looking or girls think girls are hot or cute. But i don't think they would go as far as turning to be gay. I don't think that being gay is a phase i mean if they turn gay they can't go back because the people that know they will think ewww that is gross or something like that. I know if i had a friend that was gay and then they decided to not be gay again i wouldn't look at them the same, expecially if they are a woman. I do NOT think people are born gay because you just can't be born gay before seeing the same sex. I don't think it is genetic either, you can't inherit being gay that is just not possibe now if you have a gay parent you could see what they are like and stuff like that, but no you can't be born gay or get it genetically ( at least i think). Like i stated earlier i think people are gay becasue they fail with the opposite sex.
Sonja Paul
I believe that the article was very insightful. Thanks for the link.
I feel that people are born with the genetic makeup of who they will be attracted to and have no choice in the matter. I have a son who is gay, and as a child he found it very hard to be a boy.
We bought him all of the boy toys and my husband tried to teach him boy activities-to no avail-he is who he is and we love him. It does hurt me to think of the things he has to deal with, the closed mindedness of some people, he is a loving person, and deserves a life of love, peace, and acceptance.
Pam
I wouldnt see why anyone would purposely want to make their life more complicated by being homosexual, so I dont think it's something you just wake up and decide "I'm gay". I dont know if it's nature or nurture that makes people gay, but it just boils down to your preference and who you're attracted to. I dont think it's something you can help...you cant help if you're attracted to someone.
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