Do you think couples should live together before they get married? What are the advantages and disadvantages? Do you think that living together beforehand might make the marrige less special? If a couple lives together for two or three years and gets along together, should they get married at all? Why or why not?
April Steele
afternoon class
20 comments:
I think couples should live together before they get married. the advantage is that you get to find out if you "can" live together. I don't think there are any disadvantages to it at all. Living together makes it less of a shock to be married but doesn't make it any less special. My boyfriend and I have been together for about eight years and like I said lived together for two. We have no future plans for marriage simply because we feel we don't need a piece of paper to tell us we're together.
Hannah
Yes I do think they should because it gives you a chance to get to knoe each-other more.
To she how one acts when they are mad or how they are acustom to living.
No I don't I think it whould help you be better informed about each other.
In some casses they should but not in all. Because in the two or three years that you are with that person you may realize that he ore she isn't the one for you.
Gary A. Lawson
I believe that a couple should live together for atleast a couple of months before the wedding date. If they get to know eachother before hand, so that they do not regret marring someone they do not actually live well with. Dating a person and getting along well is different from actually living together. Some say it is a sin according to the bible, but this is a time where people live together and never marry at all. I live with my mate and we are not married yet.
Yes, I belive that people should live together before they marry. If people would live together before they marry then our devorce rate would go down. one reason our devorce rate is so high is because people do not know what is like to live with eachother. if pwople would live together before they marry then they would know if htey can stand eachother before they acually get married.
nick
Yes, I do think they should live together prior to getting married. Dating someone and living with someone are completley different. I know it used to be considered completly wrong to live with someone prior to the wedding, but how many people back then actually got to pick who they married? Most of the time, your spouce was picked by your parents, so it really didn't matter if you got along with that person or not. Now that we have the choice, I think we should take advantage of that and make sure that the person we are with is the one we want to be with for the rest of our life. No, I don't think living together beforehand makes the marriage less special. I think the couple probably doesn't care about having a grand wedding as much as they would have. I've been engaged for about 3 years and have been living with my fiance for about 4 yrs. We will get married, but I'm not concerned about the wedding. Why spend so much money for what is essentially a family reunion? I really can't think of any dissadvantages.
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Valerie Myers
I think it could be a good idea for them to live together! You get to know that person better but @ the same time if you have a argument then you are forced to live with that person! I dont think it would make marriage less special! It depends on if ther feel like they really want to marry that person.
Amber Franklin
9:00 class
I think that couples should live together for a couple of months before they get married. You learn all of your partners bad habits and lets you find out if you can really live with them for the rest of your life or not. It does take away from the whole 'newlywed' couple idea though. I think the ideal couple would get married, buy/rent a house together, and move in together for the first time shortly after their honeymoon. The divorce rate would probably go down because these couples find out before they are actually married if they are truely compatable for eachother or not.
Elizabeth Moody
Yes I believe that people should be allowed to live to gether before they get married. Some couples can feel so deeply in love when they are just dating, then when they get married and have to live with each other then they start to think that maybe it wasnt such a good idea to marry each other, and think about what they could have had.
John Maxwell
From Phil Gould:
I was raised in church-says it all right? I think that living together before marriage may be a cause for break-ups down the road. A couple lives together, does whatever they'll do, and when they DO get married--it's not nearly as special as they thought it would be. They thought that life would be better, when in reality it only gets harder!
Hope this helps! PHIL GOULD
I do think couples should live together before getting married. I was almost 19 when I got married the first time. I did not live with him because I would have disgraced my family. Within the first 6 months, I knew I had made a huge mistake. When dating, people can put on a front for a couple of hours here and there. When living with someone, their true self will come out because you are together most of the time. I think the marriage will be stronger by living together, but the sex will be less special on your wedding night because it is not your first time together. I feel that you should only live together if you are serious about the other person and would want to marry them. I believe that a time limit should be given, right from the beginning, on when to sit down together and decide on the next step, whether to marry or break up. I think one year of living together will give you plenty of time to decide what is best for you in that relationship.
Robbin R.
I don't think it hurts anything when 2 people live together before marriage. Especially if they are unsure of themselves. I think relationships are what you put into them. If you don't work at them you will have problems. It is up to the person if they should get married or not. I believe they should because of my upbringing.
David S.
I think it is a good idea to live together before marriage. When you are dating you always look your best and you are at your best. But when you live with someone you get to see the real person, and that could make a difference between getting married or going your seperate ways.
WeTona Houtzel
Yes, I think all couples should live together before they are married. Learning to live together and deal with eachother all the time is a big commitment to meet before you get married. Even if the other person isn't there all the time..their stuff is. Dating somebody is one thing but living with them is another. When youa re dating someone you can go to your own house and get away..have your alone time. But, when you are married..you both share the same house. SO therefore, you have no where to go. You have to learn how to deal with eachother at all times. I think living together could only make a marriage more special. It's your only chance of getting even closer.
Tiffany Hartke
i think its a bad idea for couples to live together before they are married but yet a good idea for some people. its a bad idea because you will find out how the person really is. if they are messy or whatnot. its a good idea because you will the realize if or if not this is the person you want ot be with for the rest of your life. so it will help you out either way.
craig acree
Yes, I think some couples should live together before marriage. I've lived with my daughter's father for about 5 years and it's one ot the better choices I've made. You have to know who you're living with before you made the big step. We have future plans, but I don't need a piece of paper to tell me I'm spoken for.
Tamika Newbern
I just recently started living with my boyfriend so I can speak from experience. I always hated picking up after people and doing things around the house. I was surprised to find that when I have my own place, I constantly find things to keep me busy; laundry, cleaning, etc. The shocker is that I actually enjoy it. It doesn't bother me to constantly pick up his dirty clothes and do dishes. We discovered that we live well together too. He makes dinner every night because I hate to cook and he makes sure to do or not do certain things he knows bother me. In return I make sure he has clean clothes, etc. We have plans to get maried in a year or so and I know I have nothing to worry about. My favorite time of day is when we both come home after work and just be together, we don't even have to be doing the same thing. Living with your partner lets you know how well you can work together as well as deal with problems. Some people can be in love, but find they really can't stand to be with that person ALL the time. Living together will let you know.
Teresa Osterbur
I think that it is a really good idea to live together for a some time. I dont think that living together would take away anything from marriage. You need to find out if you can actually live with this person before you ever decide to take the next step to marriage.
Jeff Still
I think it's a good idea for couples to live with one another before getting married. A lot of times when people first meet, they're on their "best behavior" and always trying to act nice/perfect. I think living together gives you a chance to know eachother even more. I don't believe it makes marriage any less special. If you truly love one another and want to be together forever, your wedding day will still be special and important. Katrina Schoonover
When i was dating my husband, he asked me to move in with him, and I said no. I felt that if i moved in with him, he would never marry me, thinking what's the point since we already live as married couples do anyway. Many people make that decision to live together before marraige, and i can't change thier minds, but i am totally against it.
Beverly Burnside
I think that it is a must for people to live together before marriage.that is the only way you will know if you can get along with the person.If you don't know what you're getting into it won't take long for it to fall apart.
jamell b
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